Calling myself out on my own flakiness....

So a few months ago I posted about flakiness being a particular and peculiar affliction of young women in NYC. I have to say dear readers, that I have to eat some of my own words at this point because I too just flaked very badly over the course of the past weekend .....

But in my defense... I flaked on a first date with a plain vanilla chica (who may or may not have given me the hot sex I needed over the weekend) to attend an orgy in one of the outer boroughs where I was thoroughly pleased by several women over the course of the evening.

Was it really so wrong... I was horny and wanted sex... not companionship or conversation...

Take this mea culpa for what is .... I flaked. I'm sorry. But the sex was worth it ;-)

The flakiness factor

Of all the bullshit the straight single male in the big city has to deal with, none is more annoying, infuriating and plain capricious than the flakiness of the female gender. Women flake for a variety of reasons... from plain old chickening out, to changing their minds, to absent mindedness....

Now I am not saying that women should not be allowed to change their minds, nor am I talking about disregarding a woman's prerogative.

What I am talking about is the tendency for young(er) woman to not follow through on plans they have made. In fact, I have dealt with so many flakes during my dating career in NYC that I do not trust plans till I have reconfirmed them 24 to 36 hrs before the event.

I have dealt with less flakes as a swinger but this is just because I have a rigorous and no bullshit screening process for couples and single females . And I must admit, I probably have had more than my fair share of luck in that particular process.

However, after dealing with a flake, who would not have told me of her reasons to cancel till the last minute if I had not reached out with my customary confirmatory text, the whole thing just pisses me off. I was really looking forward to some sex tomorrow night and if I had known earlier that she would have been a flake, I would have rejiggered my schedule to make room for a sex party I know of - which is currently ongoing. Now as it stands, there will be no sex for the 646hedonist tonight and definitely no sex for him tomorrow. Fucking annoying.

What I really don't understand is whether women get it.... when you make plans follow through or don't make them at all.... To my female readers - why do young women flake so much ?

Is there some hidden dating agenda/strategy I am not seeing or is it another expression of female power ?