Wednesday, December 23, 2009

Another MFM

Another Black (multiorgasmic) cockslut off of Craig's List from a few weeks ago. She stopped by after dinner tonight with her man, it was a quick MFM which ended with me shooting over her face and down her throat. Not my best work in terms of endurance but I was due for some strange.
She appeared to like it too and we all left on good terms.

It was also the first threesome I have ever hosted at my apt... it was satisfactory to say the least.
Not a bad way to start the holiday season....

Friday, December 18, 2009

Best Laid Plans...

So I was supposed to be at a massive orgy tonight. 21 couples and single women RSVPed... with about 30 single men joining... it was going to be an epic fuckfest.

Of course, with my luck, the traffic cascading all over the east coast and the snow advisories, I never made it out of Manhattan.

Oh well, it gives me a chance to think about the past year: it has been a good one in many ways... a tremendous amount of sexual encounters, success in my professional life and a great family life as well.

Some things could be better - I still find it hard to relate to the games vanilla women play, and I am so type A that I alienate some people with my candor. Those are things I am working on, however I am still resistant to the bullshit dating game. I am still impatient with people who I think are wasting my time, I do not suffer fools gladly and I am still fiercely independent in how I handle my affairs - sexual and non-sexual.

I am also being won over by the caliber of some of the black women I am now meeting in my professional circles... I do believe IR sex will always do it for me; but I have also begun to meet attractive, personable black women in a way I did not before - and that is not a bad thing.

My couple play has slowed as of late - I have done a lot more parties and one on ones but I think that is something I am going to kick back up in the new year...

I also do think I need to put myself out there more... I have focused a lot of my energy on the sex part of the equation and I am not getting any younger - I am firmly in my late 20s now; and while i think a long term commitment is still far off, it might make sense to get back on that dating bike - in controlled doses of course.

Regardless, 2009 will go down as a great year for the 646hedonist and I am grateful for the fun, the partners, the sex, the opportunities, my friends and family. I am also grateful to everyone who reads and supports this blog.

I will continue to look for more ways to broaden the readership in the next year.

Happy Holidays!

Monday, November 23, 2009

Thoughts on Contentment

The scene is a hotel room in a gambling town.... the other bed clearly has signs of sex every where - clothes on the floor; we have just ordered room service after a great round of sex... as we eat, my friend feeds me some of her food - which we ordered from the tavern attached to the hotel.

The meal is great, every morsel melting in my mouth, much like her breasts and her pussy had minutes before.... This my friends is what the good life is - room service, amazing sex, great company and the knowledge that this was an escape from the norm, a much needed stress relief for the both of us as the weather gets colder on the east coast - and before my friend escapes to the warmer climes from whence she came.

It was one on one; in the best way.... and you all know how much I enjoy hotel sex... there's something about great service, the fact that you get to leave and the newness of your surroundings.

It was interesting that this was the backdrop for a meditation on contentment. My friend was mentioning to me how she knew a woman who lived in the same town where she had grown up.... in the same house where she and her husband had gotten married, with her family and friends in a 1 mile radius around her. She described this lady as "content" with this simple kind of life.

We too were content in those moments of great sex, great food and great company... and I guess that is what I seek, I guess that is what motivates me; in this hedonistic journey of mine.... that feeling of satisfaction and satiation - right now in an almost purely physical and environmental sense. I guess one day, when I evolve into a higher emotional being, that I might long for someone to love.... but right now, I guess loving the things that make me feel good will suffice for now.....

Wednesday, October 28, 2009

Back in NYMAG - In print this time!




Yep, that's right. My diary was one of those chosen by the editors to be included in the print issue about the sex diaries.... of course I did not send in a real picture and instead had a composite created by one of the illustrious NYMag artists....

This is the link:

http://nymag.com/news/features/sexdiaries/2009/60298/

Of course there is the usual assortment of haters but it is what it is. I have had more sex in my 27 years than some people will have in their entire lives.

Nice composite don't you think ?

Saturday, October 24, 2009

Hugh Hefner - A true (urban) hedonist hero!


One of my favorite Hef pics - with his longtime girlfriend Barbi Benton in the 70s, note the Playboy Jet in the Background.


Hugh Hefner is profiled in the New York Times this weekend.


Hef as he is called is one of my personal heroes - for a variety of reasons; a true hedonist, he has lived his life to the ripe age of 83 by his own measures - with beautiful women, a great business (that admittedly is in decline) and achieving his own place in business and pop history.

While a lot of people focus on the sex/debauchery, they seem to forget one simple fact - one that I think everyone should be aware of - if you are not successful - you do not control your life. Hef created a business driven by his creative hedonistic vision, and in turn that vision and hard work allowed him to create a sexual garden of eden.

As a fellow hedonist, I am in awe of both his success and his courage in the light of what was - in the 1950s - a stifling sexual and cultural and lest we forget - racial environment.

The best part - is that hef seems to be in a more evolved place sexually when it comes to dealing with women than most men alive - including, if we are being honest, this writer.

He did not see the engagement between the sexes as a zero-sum game but rather as a case of creating an enabling environment. As a man who wants to enjoy sex with a variety of beautiful women, I think there is a lot to learn from hef.

And as a hedonist; who enjoys the world, good food, good drink, great sex and the breadth and width of human possibility - I truly believe one could do a lot worse than emulating Hugh Hefner as a role model.



Pictures courtesy of the New York Times.

Friday, October 16, 2009

The flakiness factor

Of all the bullshit the straight single male in the big city has to deal with, none is more annoying, infuriating and plain capricious than the flakiness of the female gender. Women flake for a variety of reasons... from plain old chickening out, to changing their minds, to absent mindedness....

Now I am not saying that women should not be allowed to change their minds, nor am I talking about disregarding a woman's prerogative.

What I am talking about is the tendency for young(er) woman to not follow through on plans they have made. In fact, I have dealt with so many flakes during my dating career in NYC that I do not trust plans till I have reconfirmed them 24 to 36 hrs before the event.

I have dealt with less flakes as a swinger but this is just because I have a rigorous and no bullshit screening process for couples and single females . And I must admit, I probably have had more than my fair share of luck in that particular process.

However, after dealing with a flake, who would not have told me of her reasons to cancel till the last minute if I had not reached out with my customary confirmatory text, the whole thing just pisses me off. I was really looking forward to some sex tomorrow night and if I had known earlier that she would have been a flake, I would have rejiggered my schedule to make room for a sex party I know of - which is currently ongoing. Now as it stands, there will be no sex for the 646hedonist tonight and definitely no sex for him tomorrow. Fucking annoying.

What I really don't understand is whether women get it.... when you make plans follow through or don't make them at all.... To my female readers - why do young women flake so much ?

Is there some hidden dating agenda/strategy I am not seeing or is it another expression of female power ?

Sunday, October 11, 2009

The death of chivalry....

So I was out and about on the LES (Lower East Side) tonight.... with a good friend of mine, his former high school sweetheart and her friend - a hot black girl, who, if I was into sisters, I would have been all over.

The women, nice, cute/fuckable and generally personable were complaining about the death of chivalry in NYC.

"Men don't open doors'
"In the south, men make sure that women do not walk on the curb side of the street"
"there is just a general aggressiveness in this town that makes it hard for women"

I was fascinated, in a morbid way, by their complaints and what seemed to me like a massive sense of entitlement.

Regardless of what the PC thing is to say, chivalry died when feminism became a viable and practical philosophy.

You don't see men - straight, gay or bi waltzing around opening the doors for each other as a matter of principle. Some men do it to be polite, but every man worth his salt in this world knows that you are not owed anything.....

Chivalry made sense in a world where women were 2nd class citizens. In a world where women can succeed as well as men, fuck as well or even better (in numbers and in quality: please see Egan, Tracy) and where their opportunities continue to grow, I am not sure that chivalry has a reason to exist.

Of course, some of my female friends might read this and imply that I am advocating an end to polite and reciprocal relations between the sexes. Nothing could be further from the truth. Women are not nice/welcoming/open or available to all men, ergo; there is no practical reason for the onus to be on men to do so either.

Do be polite, do be respectful, but no - you don't have to open every door, nor do you have to stand up at dinner, nor do you have to buy an expensive dinner to impress someone. Do that for people worth your time and effort, not because you think it is some duty you have to perform to get what you want.

In a strange way, I personally believe that the death of chivalry has wrought something more profound, more honest and more real. Chivalry was fake.

In it's place, in some cases it has brought about real friendship.... the kind of friendship where, if a man is your friend ladies, he will walk you home because he understands the world, he will buy you a drink before hand, he will make sure some guy does not harass or push you around at the bar.

Not because you are a woman, but because you are his friend or his partner - and a real man stands up for those he cares about - friends or more. Chivalry was just posturing; akin to foreplay for a time when sex needed a first act that met some emotional need. On the other hand, that which I refer to, while much harder to achieve, is much more real.

Friday, September 18, 2009

Friday Night Fuck....with a twist of domination

It has been a hectic few weeks - with work, projects and various career initiatives pulling me in a variety of directions. Unfortunately, with ms y being a little clingy and work pushing me around, I haven't had any time for anything but work and career issues....

Thankfully I was able to change that tonight. I hooked up with a Greek lady off of AFF. I won't lie, she wasn't the hottest chica I've done in my extra-curricular career.... but she did let me tap into a side of me that I don't usually exhibit.

You see, said hook up has had a lot of non-consensual/submissive fantasies.... And while I can be dominant, it is not my general style of play....However, given her interests, I was intrigued.

And as such, I put together a domination situation/roleplay sequence just for her. I made her meet me in public without any underwear on... and she had to do what I demanded for a half hour. I also made her bring along her favorite sex toy....

I guess I surprised myself with how dominant I became - throat gagging, face fucking, cock slapping; my new friend was game for (almost) everything. I made her suck my dick while fucking herself with the vibrator, gagged her numerous times till she lost her gag reflex, slapped her across the face - with my cock and with my hands (lightly, no bruises here) and called her a bitch, a slut, a whore; I also fucked her with supreme abandon, pinning her down, pulling her hair, .... I choked her - which I do not usually do, but I think the fact that she was so game was a massive turn on for me.

And she loved it.

We fucked numerous times over 4 hrs, I came multiples - including via one very memorable titty fuck and blow job combo I will not soon forget.

While the raunch factor in this particular encounter was off the charts, (I watched her get dressed, then I hiked up her skirt and bent her over my bed for one last round of doggy goodness), I am not sure that I need to get to that level of dominance. I really enjoyed it, but I also enjoy sex when the girl I am with is enthusiastic in general.

I guess the honest to God answer for me is that I will always need a certain level of dominance in my physical encounters, especially if they are just casual; I do know, having been there before in a relationship, that the desire to dominate - all the time - even sexually, fades if there is a real emotional connection; but I think I will always need a sexual partner who understands that part of the physicality that I enjoy is the ying and yang between men and women... and how our bodies fit and interact.

With all that said, I am soooo glad Ms. Alex is throwing an orgy party next Friday... I need some more raunch in my life... and I know a few hot-wives who might be ready to oblige.

PS: It turned out tonight's hook up was new to IR/BBC.... I think it's safe to say that I put in a good performance for all the "brothers" out there. I think she might go black a bit more often in future.....

Sunday, September 6, 2009

Saturday, September 5, 2009

Hilarious Satire....

is it wrong that I would be focused more on banging the hell out of her, as opposed to focusing on the offensive things she was saying...


Use Of 'N-Word' May End Porn Star's Career

Saturday, August 29, 2009

Not really happy with what I am eating

So, I am in the middle of a slight let-down, which was inevitable given my summer. I am slap bang in the middle of a career transition so the days are long and my nights are filled with networking events.

I can't complain... it is what I wanted to do, but my sex life is taking a hit. I have had some sexual encounters, but nothing with the right level of raunch, passion and skill I am looking for.

To top it off; my friend ms Y is becoming a little clingy... while denying me oral sex.

So I need a new adventure and soon.... any body out there looking for an athletic bbc to take a ride on..... I eat pussy too....

I might just wear a sign... saying Have Cock - will travel.

Tuesday, August 11, 2009

On not knowing where my next meal will come from.

So it has been a few days since the threesome. I am off my high and looking for my next encounter so to speak.... I have nothing going on in the plain vanilla world, a fact that my real life friends are starting to call me out on. I'd much rather get drunk at the bar/club than spit game. Not because I don't know how - but that I am less interested with the thrill of the hunt. I am all about bagging the game and enjoying a good meal so to speak.... The hunt is for game players, I am past that.

With all that said, I need my fix soon. I know of a sex party on Saturday - one that has treated me well in the past despite some minor annoyances. If nothing comes up (and I see nothing on the horizon right now, I might find myself, over the weekend, in the tri-state area getting my fix with at least one hot wife).

I know I should try to get back into the dating game, but really none of the women I see/meet really move me. And I am both lazy, disinclined and not convinced of any of the game's merits.

But still I need sex on a regular basis...

What a conundrum.

Monday, August 3, 2009

Leaving Las Vegas….

I am sitting here at McCarran International after what has been a great west coast trip: I visited Northern California, Southern California and Las Vegas. I got to see wine country, mountain country and some great cities while I was at it. And I got to reconnect with old friends, make some new ones and get some hot sex in between.

So why am I feeling less content and more dissatisfied. I really should be grateful and I know this. I just took the trip of a lifetime, I can afford to pay for it all and I am heading back to a great new career transition upon my return to NYC.

I guess the simple answer is that I am never satisfied. I always want to push myself harder, I always want to win and to be perfectly honest; I want to be King.

Being King means having a suitable queen… and there might lie the rub. Whenever I take my vacations I see guys who are nowhere near my income bracket or career status, needless to mention looks with dimes and trophy girlfriends. And while I have done well in my time, I really do not believe I have fully explored my fullest potential with the opposite sex.

Put simply; at this point in my life, I want a hot chick. Not sorta hot, not cute, not even moderately hot. I want a traffic stopper on my arm and on her back in my bed. I want the kind of chick who spends as much time as I do in the gym; keeping it tight and together.

Being a Black man who dates interracially; and who has dated mostly white women for the past few years… there are certain challenges… but I am not crying any tears for myself. My problem might be that I have become so focused on sex and sexual experiences, that I almost don’t know how to engage in a vanilla way anymore.

In addition, as I have become more successful, my patience with women and the games they play has grown less and less. Add that to my tendency to speak my mind, my large sexual appetite and you have a very high dating bar set for the 646Hedonist.

I have been single for about 5 years now. 5 years of crazy adventures and misadventures, a lot of fun, a little heartbreak and a lot of self knowledge. I don’t think that odyssey is about to end but it might be fun; even just for a little while, to share that with someone attractive, sexual, smart and respectful.

One of my good friends, a man I call the “natural” because of his uncanny ability to put women at ease - first in public, then in his bed ~ has advised me to get a “starter” girlfriend; to ease my transition out of the life of the hungry, sexually ravenous bachelor into a more acceptable dating mode.

I am not sure about that idea; but suggestions from you readers are greatly welcomed. Regardless of how things play out… I have been having the sexual time of my life and I would not give that back for anything in the world.

Saturday, August 1, 2009

Trip Update: Sin City Edition


Hello dear readers. I am coming to you from the madness that is sin city. It is 9AM as I blog the events of my extended West Coast Vacation but it might as well be 6pm or 4am. Time really has no meaning on the Vegas Strip.

My trip so far has been a blast, I hit two of the three major cities in California, a beautiful California beach/mountain town and have been in Sin City for the past two nights. I have had some great dinners, partied with old friends and explored new places. I have also taken a LOT of photos.

I have also had the opportunity to indulge myself in my other hobby: sex.

Suprisingly enough, my first encounter in NorCal came about via a CL posting. Granted, it was in Mr. Newmark’s home city so one would hope that it worked out, but as I have mentioned before, CL has become spambot/Pic Collector/Flake Central. Hence I was very surprised to have been contacted by a nice hot wife couple who lived in one of the surrounding suburbs.

I had a great hotel while I was there (thanks Amex travel!) and as such was able to host in style. The day was a little touch and go however, with my new friend calling earlier in the day to cancel, then texting later at night to say she was feeling much better and wanted to go through with the meet.

Despite the complications, it was a hot play date. Her delightful breasts, oral skills and great attitude made for a very hot time.

However I must say, that the events of the past 24 hours do take the cake.

I had the good fortune to visit the red rooster while here in vegas: (www.vegasredrooster.com) with some friends who I have played with on the east coast but who happened to be based out of LV.

It was a surreal yet positive experience and definitely worth a visit. There is a large group area and several private play rooms, with a variety of couples and singles allowed in. The rooster itself is a bit of an homage to the golden age of swinging.... (With all the positive and negative connotations that might imply).

However I did not have the time to ponder those thoughts because I was engaged, first in sex with my swinging friend from back east, and then with her and her girlfriend in my first MFF threesome. I don't think I will ever forget the sight of fucking one woman while watching her face buried deep in another woman's pussy. It was pretty fucking hot and despite my best efforts, 10 - 15 minutes of that action was what it took. This was after a pretty long one on one session with my friend before the 3 some.

I just found out that the friend I was supposed to play with on Sunday evening just cancelled on me.... seeing as this was a CL hookup, i might have been talking to a spambot for all I know.

Oh well, the trip has been a blast so far. We'll see what we can do about these next two days.

Have fun and stay safe everyone.

Friday, July 17, 2009

25 Things about the 646hedonist....

So everyone on Facebook is doing these.... I figured I'd spice things up by doing one for this blog... with some truths, thoughts, goals... etc. Feedback is always appreciated.


1) I have always been a horny bastard and I honestly do not believe that will ever change. I'll be 90 and still scheming for sex in my nursing home.

2) I lost my virginity at 17 to a 20 year old who I would sneak into the house while my parents were at work. Unfortunately, she was not into giving head but the rest of that first experience was pretty damn good.

3) I have a tremendous amount of stamina, I can go for hours. Sometimes it's a blessing, other times a curse. I think it comes from all the years of high school masturbation but I can't really be sure.

4) As someone in the IR/BBC lifestyle, I get a little insecure about penis size. At 7.5 inches I am not the biggest boy in the class, but I do like to think I am always among the most competent.

5) It still stings when dealing with a size queen though - because there is absolutely nothing you can do about changing the size of your dick.

6) Whoever or whatever corporation that comes up with a safe, viable method for increasing penis size a la breast implants will have written themselves a check for generations. They will MINT money hand over fist.

7) I have always been attracted to women who looked different from me - as a young kid I had respective crushes on: south asian and white girls in kindergarten, the princess in the "never ending story" and winnie from "the wonder years".

8) When I need to get sex, sometimes looks as an absolute value have fallen by the wayside.

9) Sometimes I think women do not really understand how horny men get and how frustrating the market for straight men is... I think the fact that they are offered dick every waking minute and they fact that they do not deal with rejection in the same way means we are speaking two very different languages.

10) If the Sex is not great, there will be no relationship. Unfortunately though, the corollary is not true.

11) As a young man, I never understood why some men got into watching their wives or significant others with other men. As I get older, I understand it more and more.

12) I would be less insulted by a suggestion to open a relationship than I would by infidelity.

13) I will always respect a non-manipulative hotwife over a supposedly great but lying, cheating wife.

14) I would be open to allowing a pressure valve release via swinging or casual play if I was in a long term relationship and yes.... including a MFM or allowing her a pass to play with a certain person or people.

15) Right now I am not looking for love, but it would be nice to find one day.

16) I still have a massive wedge on my shoulder from high school and it informs why I have very little patience for some women and the games that they play.

17) If I like you, I want to fuck you. The reverse is not necessarily true.

18) I love to suck on breasts.... real/fake it does not matter. What matters is that the woman enjoys the sensation/feeling.

19) I am always nervous before a sexual encounter, because there is always the possibility it could go bad.

20) While I might be nervous about performance and how I measure up, I am never nervous or insecure about my body. I spend a lot of time working on it and it shows. I measure up to anyone on that count anyday of the week.

21) I am going to stop counting when I get to triple digits.

22) There is a difference between having sex, making love, and fucking.

23) With someone you care about, the line gets blurred because you can do all 3 in the same session.

24) Some of the best times I have had at Parties/orgies are the moments right before the sex, when you see people you're played with and talked to, you chat, you get to know new people and just relax.

25) A woman's orgasm is a very complex thing.... the only thing I can say for sure is that the look on her face at that moment is one that is never duplicated anywhere else. NOTHING else generates that look.... and the fact that I was able to, at that point in time, is a high that I never quite get tired of.

The Gradual Wind Down of the Summer of Sex...





So, my dear readers, my summer of sex is winding down..... The past few weeks since my last update have been a little crazy.... there was a weekend night with a young black cock slut in boston, several house parties in the east coast/tri state area and a massive orgy/gangbang in the midwest where I fucked every single hotwife in appearance.....

I still have one last big trip planned.... I will end up in Sin City at the end of the month and I am going to make sure that I do some swinging/partying in Vegas. I have been going to Vegas for years but I have never gotten to taste the city's IR scene. I hope to change that on this next trip.

However as much fun as this summer has been, we all know good things always come to an end. Career, Education and professional life will again take a much larger role in my life going forward and I will not have as much time to devote to my carnal pursuits. It has been a blast and I want to thank everyone who I have played with, chatted with and who has read my blog so far. I appreciate you taking the time and while my playing will be slowing down, it is by no means done.

As you know by now, I am all about the bottom line. So without further ado, I present to you, in true NY Mag fashion, the tally at this point in the 646hedonist's summer of sex.....

4 orgies, 1 massive midwest gangbang/orgy, multiple instances of sex with former pornstar, dozens of jokes being cracked about black nerds, hundreds of miles logged on the ground and in the air in pursuit of sex, dozens if not hundreds of cum shots, 25 pictures of oral sex being performed on me by said black cockslut, multiple referrals from hotwives and one referral by a boyfriend and at least 19 new sex partners in the past few weeks of this particular odyssey.


And hopefully there's a little bit more left in the tank.....

Friday, June 26, 2009

A very bizarre 36 hours....

So while some of my good friends are slowing down their recent cycles of hot sex, mine is actually picking up. Since my tropical vacation, I have had a few encounters here and there but nothing that really satiated my needs in the way I like till yesterday. However, the past 36 hours have been a roller coaster of madness ....


Wednesday started with me waking up really horny. I know, not much different from any other day. However, Wednesday afternoon, I had set up a meet with a cheating wife via Adult Friend Finder. I am of two minds when it comes to fucking (cheating) married women; I have done it - usually because I follow my dick wherever it leads, but it is never the ideal situation. A cheating encounter also does nothing to ease my perennial trust and intimacy issues.

To be fair, this wife was not the hottest wife I have fucked, but I really wanted a raunchy encounter and that was all she was looking for too, so I overlooked a few things I shouldn't have and I forgot to ask for a face pic. Bad move, but not the worst.

I was supposed to be hosting the encounter but during the day, she called with an update: she was house sitting in outer borough; would I mind a change of venue.

Now people who know me well, know that for whatever reason, the hedonist does not really leave the island; for the US open, for some really good food but I am not super knowledgeable about the outer boroughs. I am not being a hater, just stating some facts. This lack of knowledge though, would come back to bite me in the ass.

I jumped on the train following her directions. My anticipation was a little hard to hide, but I am thankful for Kenneth Cole jackets. I walked out of the train station and straight into the 'hood. That little fact really didn't help my comfort level but fuck it: I was committed and on my way to the address I was given.

I got there, she let me up and we jumped into it. She was enthusiastic and she hadn't misrepresented her looks but after an initial bout of enthusiasm on my part, I lost interest. We weren't gelling in the way I like and while I like to believe that I will go through with about anything for an orgasm, this clearly was not the case ....

I politely extricated myself from the situation, disappointing as it was for both of us and made my way back to the subway... I was pissed, being the stud validates me in a very real way... and yes, I know "these things happen" - that really did not make me feel any better at the time.

Regardless, I went through with the rest of my day, a little upset and determined to get n end of day drink at one of my favorite establishments. I finally rolled onto my barstool around 9pm and caught up with bartenders and some friends in the area. 1 drink turned into 4 and sure enough, I was slamming them back and shooting the shit with new and old friends alike.

"Are you out and about" - came the unexpected text from Ms. Y, an acquaintance of mine from my professional network. She is a petite blonde with a great ass and a penchant for high heels, but at this point in time was just a very cool, yet attractive person to hang out with. As some of you know, I am very careful about mixing work/networking with pleasure... so while she was great to look at and fun to drink with, I believed that would be the full extent of our interaction.

"Yes I am - actually headed downtown for a bit, do you want to grab a drink at XXXXX" - she agreed and I rolled into the bar 15 minutes later for what I thought would be a few quick drinks.

However, conversation flowed more than anything else and we began to share war stories and dating adventures and misadventures in NYC. It turned out that Ms. Y had more of an edge to her than I thought....

As we walked back to our respective residences, somehow I got invited to swing by her place "quickly". However, the moment I walked in and jumped her, it looked like it would be a good night. I was, however a little gun shy given what had happened earlier in the day and I did not want to be disappointed again.

However, when she disappeared for 5 minutes and reappeared with some very hot items of clothing and when it became very apparent that our chemistry was super compatible, we got into the swing of things and it turned into a very late night/early morning... I certainly did not see that coming, and I'll try to see her again.

We have a compatible fucking style and I would like to explore more. I also have to admit that the lingerie, heels, sex kitten look is probably more important to me than I realized.

Then to top it all off; if things had not been bizarre enough, Michael Jackson passed away yesterday.... definitely a crazy set of events... but one that eventually worked out for me.

addendum:

While best laid plans can definitely go to hell as I have seen before, I have some trips, parties and orgies on the horizon that should be fun and should hopefully give me some new posting fodder. I am looking forward to some hot sex in the next few weeks and I have worked to put all the pieces in place.... we'll see how it all pans out but there should be some orgasms provided by some hotwives in my future.

Sunday, June 14, 2009

Vacation Synopsis and thoughts...

So via the power of modern technology... and my trusty amex,... I am blogging from the air... while admiring a very milfy air hostess doing her job with extreme prejudice. It has been a bit of a bumpy ride from the tropical locale where I spent the 3 day weekend and as such, this hedonist is wide awake and at some points in the flight - a little freaked out, but we seem to be hitting some smooth patches and with Karma, God and good thoughts on our side, should make it into JFK without any incident.


So let's get down to brass tacks... there were no fun times for the hedonist this trip. I got good food - at several great and nationally recognized restaurants like I always do. I got to party with some very cool and very attractive people and I put myself out there. But my hotel room went unused in the right way and that pisses me off. Vacation grade: B-/B at best. The only action I saw this weekend was some, admittedly very hot cybersex and playing grab ass/public finger banging with a swinger couple I met at the pool.

A few other thoughts from my vacation:

Every time I visit this particular town, I am reminded of the importance of never settling. I see so many guys with trophy girlfriends and wives, bodies tight from working out at the gym, boob jobs galore, tan and blonde. Now i am not saying that boob jobs, being blonde or tan are requirements, but they do contribute to an aesthetic that I really like. I as a young man have worked hard on my body, career and mind, and when I am ready to not fuck around, I want someone who reflects that aesthetic. I'll be damned if I get what I have started to call "the black boy discount".... I believe your woman reflects on you; she says to the world, I have invested time and effort into being with her and this relationship.... so she has got to look good.

* The Black Boy Discount: that phenomenon whereby you see athletic black men with women who are not their equal in the looks department.... now I understand that not a few of my brothers enjoy the thickness, I do too on occasion, and we all do things for some quick and easy sex, but if you believe that your woman represents you... you don't want a discount.. you want a fair transaction or a premium.

Food:

I checked out new restaurant away from my old stand-bys on this trip. Mr. Bruni at the Times recommended a place in the town I visited and I hopped in a cab to visit. I sometimes have interesting experiences as a young, reasonably athletic, non foodie looking, black man. When you sit at the bar (which is what I do when eating alone at a nice establishment - you get a spot faster and bartenders are always great to talk to) sometimes people do not give you an impressive level of service, or they try to steer you to mediocre but expensive menu options. I don't get upset but instead engage in conversation and show my knowledge of the cuisine and or the restaurant or region. Once you do that, they usually chill out/warm up and things go much better. It also helps to be a good tipper - people remember that when you come back.

Big City Partying:

I got to hang out with an attractive swinger couple one night on my trip. They were newly weds from the South but very very cool. Hubby was a little older, early 30s. Wifey was a cute to hot blonde with a great ass that I got to pinch and grab all night. It was interesting.... because I had told them some risque stories of observing the opening points of a threesome in progress thenight before at another club - where I had seen an older man flash his milf wife's bare pussy to their boy toy for the evening. They did not flinch or blanch at that ... and we kept on exchanging pleasantries. They invited me out with some other people that night and we went out partying on the town. Later on while grinding on wifey, she told me they were swingers, I told her a bit about my adventures and my hands continued to wander all evening. At one point I had my fingers under her dress, while she appeared to be having a conversation with another chica in a poorly lit room, she never objected. Too bad it seemed like they are more into playing with bifemales than MFMs. With that said, I might not want to share too if I had a wifey like that.

Now having lived in the big city for a while, I come across drugs - cocaine mainly, every now and then. I have never done anything harder than weed or viagra and I do not intend to. However some people can still be recreational drug users and still be functional. I helped hubby get some coke (as in I contributed to the pot) but told him in stern terms not to offer it to me, even if at some point in the night my curiosity grew. This led me to thinking about what I would consider my 'drugs' of choice and I would have to say that sex is my main drug:

I need it on a regular basis, I plan for it, schedule it, work for it. And I go batshit insane if I cannot get it - on my terms. Suffice to say, I did not get my fix this weekend.

My Laptop is beeping at me now, and we are about to start our descent into JFK. All in all, it is always good to leave my lovely, crazy new york, but I am glad to be back.

Wednesday, June 10, 2009

A grumpy hedonist - A few random thoughts

I am pretty horny today and have been for this week. I should be happy with the fun I had over the weekend but it seems my sex drive is still out there. I masturbate at least once or twice a day and I binge on sex at the sex parties - multiple rounds with 3 women at the last one, for instance.

Yet I am so jealous of my blog friend and fellow nymag commenter (ladyinred's - http://therealladyinred.blogspot.com) ability to take down partners in the teens in the past month. I just looked at my journal and I have probably done about 7 women in the same span... all through my time at parties.

Women have it so easy.

As you all know I don't have the patience or much faith in the bar pickup (there is a reason why it is called getting lucky) ... the other night, out with girls till 4.30 am and no sex on offer just proved my point again.

Anyway, that is not why I am grumpy. I am grumpy, despite the fact I am about to head out to warmer climes for a 3 day mini vacation, because my regular vacation fuck buddy has gone awol on me. She is usually responsive, but after two days of her not answering texts and a phone call.... it looks like the hedonist has to find some replacement vacation sex.

Being the type A individual I am, I like to have things in place. Sex that I do not have to worry about at my vacation destination is one of those things. Seeing as I actually picked her up in a bar 2 years ago while on vacation (and the night before I was scheduled to meet with another couple in the same town) I should be sanguine.... but my ability to pick up is directly correlated to my mood and the absence of irritation on my part.

Combine that with a severe dose of horniness, tasks/errands that need to get done, a missed workout today and packing that has not been handled and you have one slightly grumpy hedonist. I'll get over it, but I will say this - it's not a vacation without some good, old fashioned, raunchy hotel room fucking and the probablity of that on this vacation just went below 100%.

I'll keep you all posted.

Wednesday, June 3, 2009

A few thoughts on NYC Dating, Social Kabuki and the pursuit of sex.

So, I went on a date yesterday.

Rebound Chica, as I will term her, was someone I met a few weeks ago at a random club/lounge in the Lower East Side.

She wasn't the hottest chica, nor was she really slutty. I believe the technical term is "cute".

I had hoped that after a few dates she might put out but instead she kept wasting my time, being rude on the date by texting her (male) "friends" all the time and of course - exiting early to head back to her home in the outer boroughs.

This was date #2.

I wasn't feeling the chemistry and I have no time to waste on flighty nyc girls who will not have sex but want to keep me in their back pocket (while they might be presumably f***in someone else; who doesn't have to take them to high end cocktail bars to get the pussy).

So after putting her in a cab, I sent her a text message telling her that I thought we were looking for different things and that I was moving on. I will not waste my time.


And people ask why I hardly try anymore.

I don't see the payoff, I take said female out to drinks, act polite and I get less action than her blackberry.

Of course through this all, this girl is acting like drinks and being wined and dined are her birthright. She's not on my level economically or even from an equitable looks point of view - so the only thing she has to offer is sex; and she DID not do that in an acceptable enough timeframe for me.

Yet I am supposed to keep calling and texting in the hopes that I get some (most likely mediocre) sex ?

Fuck that.

I can go to a sex party or meet one of the couples I have known over the years, not have to jump through hoops and fuck 3 - 5 women in an evening. I am also guaranteed to enjoy the sex in a way that is a toss up with most plain vanilla chicas.

Now I accept that I am hard on women. Hardest on black women. My first experiences in High School with girls were not positive and I have never really forgotten that. Couple that with my very healthy sex drive and I have become jaded, cynical and almost brutal in my approach to the NYC dating game.

I guess this means I should focus my energies on getting sex without social kabuki.

Regular dating, for now anyway, just annoys me.

Wednesday, May 27, 2009

Shooting for a summer of sex...

Another weekend, another sex party.

I was in Long Island for a sex party this long holiday weekend and while it was not as enjoyable as the other party I went to a few weeks ago, it was still a good time. I'd give it a B/B+ but I still managed to get some great sucking and fucking in. I also managed to meet a couple from the old days - when Mr. Nine used to throw his IR parties in the tri-state area.

I did have some issues though; this was supposed to be a Gangbang party; and there were a LOT of guys, many of them first timers and also a bunch of dudes who would always crowd out or gain some new found courage whenever I started playing with a couple or single lady. These guys would never make the first move, and then once the quarry was warmed up, they would all get courage. Since I usually hate group stuff unless I am VERY VERY comfortable, I had to disengage a few times from playing. However there was one lady who gave exquisite blowjobs and she kept me happy for most of the evening. I also got to fuck some very lusty ladies.... so all in all, it was not a bad way to spend a friday evening.


Thoughts on the summer:

I went to my first sex party this summer on a whim. I was tired of dealing with NYC women and their social kabuki shit. I was a little angry at how things had ended up with the tall blonde and I just wanted to act out and get my desires met. Well, I got my wish and then some at the first party. Ms Alex was a gracious host and a great fuck - as always, and she just invited me back to another party.

I think I am going to go again.

I was going to focus on traveling, reading, writing, concerts and great dining experiences this summer. I will do all those things but as a true hedonist, I think I need to pursue a multiplicity of sexual experiences as well.

I always want to fuck as many women as possible (and I am never satisfied) but for a while there, I ignored a lot of the sex party and couple invitations I was getting for a variety of reasons: I was happy with the couples/adventures I was having, I enjoyed combining sexual adventure with travel and some of the prospects really didn't move me.

I think I am back to being in a fuck - it kind of mind frame. More sex, especially in my personal situation - single, free as a bird and focused on career and education - can only be a good thing.

Wednesday, May 13, 2009

Sunday, May 10, 2009

A few thoughts on life, love and this weekend's sex party.

I had to get out of New York this weekend.

I needed a break from the city. I do this every few months... and this time was no exception. I also needed to get back on the casual sexin'/IR partyin' wagon in a big way.

You see, for the past 8 - 9 weeks I had become infatuated with a tall, athletic and gorgeous younger blonde. She was hot enough and smart enough to be LTR material. She was sexual, but not as sexual as she thought... And for the first time in a long time, I liked her in that high school/college way.

However, like many of the young, gorgeous women who inhabit this crazy town of ours, she wasn't ready to surrender her power and charms to one man. Or perhaps, to me. And, despite my tremendous enjoyment and experience of casual sex, I refuse to be part of a male harem, especially if my emotions are involved. I will not put myself in a potentially bad situation.

I was willing to end all my sexual extra-curriculars to see where this dating expedition would lead, and when it did not work as planned, I decided to act out.

I fucked a submissive, squirting milf on tuesday. This was one of the few women I have met who can cum from hot kissing, and my god, talk about squirting!

Before this I viewed squirters as one of those often talked about but rarely viewed in the wild phenomena. Much like the 12 inch dick.

This was before meeting 2 OF THEM IN THE SAME FUCKING WEEK!

Well, I had to revise that opinion after she left my sheets soaked all the way through. God bless her and her hoover of a mouth. She was also a true cum-swallower; something which the gorgeous blonde was not.

I also met a 2nd squirter this weekend.... at an interracial house party in the suburbs of a major city in the northeast.

I hadn't been to a sex party in a long time... and I have to admit, I was a little nervous.

I had fortuitiously receieved the invite from Ms. Alex as my infatuation/dalliance with the gorgeous blonde was winding down. Knowing that my advances of fidelity were being rejected pushed me back to the dark side.

I was horny and had been holding back to be the good guy.

I was done dealing with a girl who thought that doggy style was the most dominant, animalistic sexual position ever and who could not take my above average sized cock that way for long.

Fuck all that. I needed to fuck a woman who wanted to "fuck" back (as opposed to having sex or God forbid, making love) in a bad way.

It was a small party held in a 5 bedroom party house. Non alcoholic refreshments were provided, as were party snacks. There were about 4 couples - one of whom did not play, 3 single ladies and the party host - Michael. There were also about 5 - 6 single guys.

From the get go, there was a great vibe. People were chatting and joking. Ms Alex's and other porn videos were playing on the TV in the meet and greet room. The hotwives were scantily clad, including one wife in a particularly memorable fishnet ( I will now start calling fishnet "standard swinger gear") get up with black panties and fierce, black leather fuck me boots. I got to know her a bit better as the evening went on.

I had a blast at the party....

Ms. Alex and I kicked things off by getting reacquainted upstairs in one of the private party rooms. Ms. Alex gives, as she should, a porn worthy blowjob and she fucks like a bronco. Always a great time with her.

I then fucked another hotwife, while her hubby fucked Ms. Alex on the same bed. It turned out (as her hubby would explain), later on that this hotwife had an age cutoff, which I was definitely below. Oh well, she didn't complain too much when I was on top of her stroking it like it was my job. She did not give me a second ride however, and I understood where she was coming from.

I then got to make a light skinned black hotwife cum in one of the private rooms. It was her first party and I just wanted to make sure she had a great time, which judging by the way her thighs gripped my head, she did. She gave me a passable blow job but I wanted to fuck... and it did not seem like she was ready for that level of play. So we just sat and chatted.

I then got back to my friend in the fishnet; who turned out to be a squirter. She was just great all around; she really got into the sex, gave me compliments on my cock (beautiful!) and my stroke (you have a deep one!) and rode me like a cowboy. I fucked her twice to start and both times, her voyeur/exhibitionist hubby missed it. He'd come in when we were done and go: "oh man!"

We finally obliged him with a MFM threesome (my 1st of the night), with his wife in the traditional spit roast position - sucking hubby while I hit it from behind.

I think she enjoyed it.

My last encounter of the evening was with an elusive Italian/Sicilian single MILF. She had been involved in some threesome fun earlier in the evening. It was late, around 1.30AM and most of the other guests were sleeping or leaving. What started as simple conversation in one of the open rooms, progressed to me exploring her body under her very skimpy pink negligee and would end with me and another guy tag teaming her for several hours till the light of dawn started to peek through the blinds.

She was another great animalistic fuck, who proceeded to show us pictures of her other bisexual, IR loving girlfriends - including a picture of one of her (attached) girl friend's blowing a black guy in her cubicle!

WTF ?

And I thought I had sexual adventures....

I have to give the party an "A".

It was what I needed, when I needed it, without any bullshit. I made sure to make some new swinger/IR connections and I think I will try to head back to a few parties this summer. I will never be hardcore about swinging (IR sex is another story) but this was a great escape from the city, a salve if you will, for my bruised ego and of course, as always, a memorable adventure.


Addendum:

One of the interesting things I notice on these trips is that despite all the talk of the rust belt, is that small town USA is alive and well. I generally make my way back to my lair in NYC at the crack of dawn after an adventure and I get to see these towns as they wake up.

I check out the local diners before heading over to the local train station or bus station, look at the town papers and sometimes see the high school track team on their way out to a meet or to practice.

People still live, love and fuck in these towns. God bless 'em.

I, for one could never live in a small town ( I have a hard time imagining life away from NYC), but I definitely see the appeal....

Sunday, April 19, 2009

My 2nd Time with a Porn Star.

Another adventure from our resident story teller...

So after meeting Ms. Alex at the orgy (please see the best orgy I have ever attended below) ... I was very interested in getting a repeat performance.

Luckily, she felt the same. And so, after a few phone calls and emails, we were able to set up a weekend meeting in the small town she lived in.

This town was a 4 hr bus ride from NYC, I anticipated getting on the bus at 6pm at the Port Authority, getting there at 10pm and having an all night fuck fest.

I snuck on two tall boys onto the bus. I also had my new ipod with me and some reading material and I was set for the journey. I was pretty excited; I remembered that Ms Alex had a high sexual skill level (she did sex for a living...) and she had the milf type body I had come to appreciate during my sexual travels.

4 hrs later. I arrive. I had actually called her as we pulled in.

She picked me up in her Cadillac Escalade; obviously the adult business paid well.

We chatted amiably on the 25 minute drive to her place, which was outside the small town. She basically lived in the woods, and as she explained to me, the remote location allowed her to throw a lot of parties and orgies and host a lot of shoots in and around her house.

We got to her place, a quaint but pretty house with decent acreage and a sizable back yard. Unfortunately I did not get the tour as we had other things in mind.

I had been pawing at Alex during the ride over; however once we got to the master bedroom - which was basically her personalized boudoir, I jumped all over her.

As I reminisce about this particular encounter, one of the thing that strikes me most was my lack of fear. Ms. Alex was a real life succubus - a woman of insatiable and kinky tastes, a vocal enthusiasm and a body built for sex. I should have been scared out of my mind, afraid that this crazy lady might tie me up, assault me somehow and leave me for dead out in the middle of nowhere, middle america.

Instead I was HORNY as all hell and ready to go, fuck safety and fear, I was about to fuck a pornstar for the second time; nothing could have stopped me.

They say straight men will wade through a mile of spit to get sex that they believe is worth it. Unfortunately, this is true.

Most straight guys work for sex; even bad sex offered by jezebels who supposedly know what they're doing, so hell yes, I will take a trip for FIRECRACKING, ORGIASTIC, ORGASMIC GOODNESS. Not all women know what they're doing, and unfortunately, some just don't make the effort.

Oh, and how firecracking an effort it was. Ms. Alex put on a clinic in male foreplay; teasing, biting, an impeccable and enthusiastic blowjob, rimming, ball juggling - you name it, she did it, with vigor.

We jumped right into a variety of positions. This was a woman who truly enjoyed sex and it showed. Oral, vaginal, anal... it was all on the table.

After a few hours we took a break and the evening then took a quick turn into the sublime.

"Would you like to see some of my work"
"Of course"

We then proceeded to watch one of her oeuvres, an interracial themed porn classic involving attorney-client sex, several threesomes and a complicated gangbang sequence as the finale.

I must say my favorite part of the movie watching experience was when I was getting head from Ms. Alex at the same time as her character on screen was servicing another costar. That was a truly interactive porn viewing experience.

We slept for a few hours, woke up and kept at it. I will never forgetting riding her from behind as the sun crept up, the gentle sounds of the woods contrasting with the louder sounds emanating from the master bedroom.

After a few more hours of morning sex, it was soon time for me to catch my bus back to Manhattan. Ms. Alex was great; telling me to drink some water otherwise I'd be dehydrated, driving me back to the station and buying me breakfast.

This allows me to segue into a trait I have noticed after years of sleeping with older women. They (older women - generally late 30s and up) have a certain gentility in their actions that younger women, enamored of their beauty and social status (and also insecure about the overabundance or lack thereof) seem to be missing. It makes for less awkward post coital interactions, and they just seem much more pleasant.

Now I understand I am generalizing here, and I know my view is skewed by the urban battleground that is New York City but I have to say, I have fucked a lot of older women casually, and they are in some ways much easier to talk to and deal with, vis a vis women in their 20s.

Anyway, back to our story....

At the bus depot, Ms. Alex and I got a few stares as we hugged shamelessly before I jumped on the bus. I don't know what most of those small-towners were thinking...but I'm sure we gave them some food for thought!

*****

Unfortunately Ms. Alex and I have not been able to connect since this last adventure. She has since moved to a large metro area but my travels in the last few years have not taken me near her. We have also had some near misses but I will never forget my tumble in the woods with this sexy and sexual lady.

Thursday, April 2, 2009

Saturday, March 7, 2009

The best orgy I have ever attended.

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Wednesday, February 18, 2009

My first time

So I am definitely an exhibitionist… (in some ways at least) and I think I am going to keep this going in as discreet yet literary a fashion as possible…. Let me know what you the readers think… even though, I am sure there will be some horrible comments and brain dead comments along the way. I will deal with those as they occur.

With all that said, I am now about to take you back, way back… to when it all began.

It was summer in the Midwest in the early 2000s. I was amusing myself with a 4.0 GPA in summer school, drinking during the days, working at night, barely making it to class and dating/sexing my fellow coeds when I could (and when they agreed).

It was a great summer by any measure.

Then I discovered the world of Yahoo! Clubs as they were called at the time. And of course, I found my way to the sordid, fascinating, underbelly of IR swinging.

This was a fascinating world that seemed to offer up the idea of sex without all the bullshit social kabuki (and this was in college!)

[I would later learn that post-college, social kabuki would become an even more onerous, highly choreographed, low probability, high bullshit dance]

Like anything else in my life, I dove in. Balls to the wall, I tried to learn as much about this new subculture as I could… while also seeing if I expend some of my boundless sexual energy in this new direction.

One thing about sexual fantasies… For most people they are just that: crazy ideas and scenarios to get off to. They are not goals or achievable ideas. And this, in my view is why there are so many flakes in the NSA/Swinging game.

Some people confronted by the very idea of their fantasy becoming reality; back off in sheer horror and cowardice.

Others embrace it.

I was determined to see what this new world was about. And that was how, at age 19, I was introduced to the world of IR swinging.

****

They were a fairly average couple. E., hubby was a machinist. M, the wife was a sweet looking school teacher by day. She had dark hair, massive breasts and a great ass, a curvy milf in a very good way. E., on the other hand, was your Midwest everyman. A little quiet at times, firm handshake, old school glasses, loved to chat about college football.

M, was sweet and personable. She loved teaching and her students and had that sweet Midwest attitude all the way through. She was a walking example of the lady in the streets and the animal tigress in the sheets.

We spoke on Yahoo! Messenger a few times and arranged a meet at a local hotel.

The day of, I was nervous but also very excited.

“Fuck it” I told myself when I thought about backing out, “nothing venture, nothing gained”.

I showed up at their hotel room as planned.

M. was already in her dressing gown.

Loose enough to show me exactly what I was going to be getting later on. Her décolletage had the young animal in me ready to go.

I was dressed in my best impersonation of American Eagle hip. Dark, rumpled shirt, khakis, chuck tailors. At 155lbs and dark complexioned, a nickname like skinny black would not have been out of the question.

Then I got surprised with a strange request….

“Would you mind taking a shower first?” asked E. quietly.

I was puzzled, but the half naked woman lounging on the bed compelled me. I was about to get some in a good way and a shower was a very small price to pay for that.

I hopped in the shower and got the job done military style – 3 minutes of quick efficiency. Fuck my usual 15 – 20 minutes heated mini steam room fiestas; I had a good reason to get into that towel quickly.

I walked out of the shower to a sight I will never forget.

M. was in the middle of the room, stark naked and on her knees with a look of glazed lust in her eyes.

Now as a young man I had seen that look before. Sometimes it took several beers or a really wild party at some frat house for me to get to that point with some of my fellow coeds; over time I would come to recognize it in my future girlfriend’s eyes.

But that day was when I learned to respect and maybe fear, a little, the power of female sexuality.

I needed no prompting. I walked up, took off my towel and stood right in her face.

She did the rest.

Damn! I had heard MILFs were good at certain things but this was something else!

She was moaning, whispering dirty words, telling me to fuck her mouth and how I was making her so wet.

E. was in the corner, moaning encouragement and taking pics. Surprisingly as a first timer, neither bothered me.

I wasn’t sure about why some White men liked seeing their women fucked by black guys… but I took and still take a very utilitarian view of IR swinging… it gets me the freaky, uninhibited sex I and these couples need. And at the end of the encounter, everyone goes back to their lives with no commitments, just hot, freaky memories (and sometimes pictures and video evidence ;-)

We got on the bed… and then proceeded to fuck every which way for the next 2 hours.

After our last round; I lay back catching a 5 minute break (My 19 year old self was determined to milk this for all it was worth, lord knew where my next fix was coming from!) as M. lay beside me, stroking me almost absent mindedly.

It was a scene in our orgiastic theater of the absurd; the salt of the earth Midwestern couple and the adventurous black city boy.

Then M. turned around, looked my 19 year old self dead in the eye and uttered that hitherto unheard question:

“Do you want to fuck me in the ass?"


*****

I would play with M. and E. for the next 2 years on and off till we lost contact.

Unfortunately despite all the fun we had, theirs is a cautionary tale as M. became more and more enamored of her interracial romps and less interested in being E.’s wife.

Last I heard they got divorced and she continued on her BBC riding ways.

Oh well, it was fun, for both of them, at the time.

Fin.

The story that started this all....

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