Showing posts with label IR BBC. Show all posts
Showing posts with label IR BBC. Show all posts

Sunday, March 7, 2010

The New Party Blues...

So last night I finally got to make it to an IR party out in NJ that I had heard about from a few friends in the IR scene. The party itself did not disappoint, at least 10 couples, a smattering of single ladies and some very action oriented play....

However my performance was tepid to say the least.

For some reason I was more than a little tentative; acting like a newbie despite my experience .... It didn't help that I did not get to play with some of the hotter chicks at the party but that's also just a case of being in the right place at the right time...

I have told you all about my binge-fucking craziness but last night I was positively restrained - I only fucked 2 new women, a few blowjobs, and there were periods of time when my little man was just not cooperating - at all.

Chatting with a few other guys in the swing scene; the consensus was that it was a combination of a new environment, some self selection on my part (and I did not say this but you all know how I feel about group activity with people I do not know).

I have swung long enough to know that you can't force it and that you cannot expect to be on point every night - being able to fuck 10 different women and a few multiple times... but goddamit, that's what I've done in the past....

Yesterday was a subpar night, but i'll take it over no sex at all... here's hoping for better swinging nights some time in future soon though!

Saturday, February 13, 2010

Dispatches from Sin City...


Ah, lovely Sin City - one of my favorite places in America to vacation and party... whether plain vanilla or swinging style; I always have fun here.

I am here with vanilla friends who wanted to get away from NYC... so for the most part I will be doing the usual trifecta of eating, clubbing and socializing; but as you all know, I had to also get in my share of hot interracial sex on this trip.

And did I ever...

I fucked my 2nd porn star (ever) on this trip - the first of 4 IR encounters at the Rooster last night... I am not going to lie; it was the first nut and I got it out a little faster than I would have liked (her wet, tight pussy did not help; thankfully I put in much longer, more orgasmic performances with the other three ladies I got to play with)

There was also a nice milfy blonde from the bay area there with her very cool boyfriend who rode and let herself be ridden by the hedonist; she was awesome to talk to... and her japanese was impeccable!

My usual play partner and her girlfriend (who had given me my first MFF threesome last summer) were on hand and of course, the sex was great with them.

And yes, I ate a lot of pussy; but you know what they say; practice makes perfect.

It was a great night, the rooster is a very kitschy swing club that can sometimes feel like it is stuck in the 70s, but once you look past that (and with the right company), you can have a LOT of great sex with the right people there. I am fortunate that whenever I visit, my swinging friends introduce me to everyone and as such, I get introductions, referrals and a lot of orgasms as a result.

And this was just the first night....

Day 2 is going to be plain vanilla for the most part; but I have been emailing back and forth with another hot wife couple who enjoys BBC... who knows, maybe I get lucky on this trip and get to enjoy my own version of a "vegas double" before heading back to the coldness of the east coast.

Friday, January 29, 2010

Meet and Greet/Meet and Fuck...

So I had a meet and greet (with a hotwife couple off of AFF) earlier this week. Unfortunately it did not work out like I had planned but I ended up thinking about my experiences with meet and greets... and with meet and fucks...

First, let me explain my terminology:

A meet and greet - in my experience is as the name implies, a chance for a couple to check out another couple or single person, much like a first date, it is a way to see if there are any compatibility issues and can sometimes be over a period as short as 15 minutes to as long as several "dates".

A meet and fuck - which is where I have had the majority of my experience is when a couple or a single lady meet with the intention of sex at the meet. The difference is really one of style because for a meet and fuck, phone calls, text messaging and email takes the place of the date as a way to ascertain (and build) chemistry.

The couple in question for my meet and greet was definitely in the latter school. They did not consider themselves swingers and they liked to "let things evolve".

God bless them. However, my personality - as type A as it is, does not bond well with such couples... and I think that it probably shows. The couples and swingers - like Ms. Alex that I have had great relationships and phenomenal encounters with know exactly what we're there for.

For me Swinging and NSA encounters really are all about the great sex... not the pursuit, not the build up but the sweaty, raunchy action itself.

Fortunately the world is a large place and there are plenty of guys willing to hang around the hoop and play out the "seduction" scenario... and if that is your fantasy, I am definitely not knocking it. However, I have the most success coming in as the stud - I am there to sexually satisfy, add a level of spice and physicality that you might not get, I am present for the great sex... and while I enjoy the chit-chat and get to know you stuff... unless you are one of my old swinging friends... it is all about what we do - on the bed, on the floor, in the shower... etc.

Needless to say, my style and theirs did not gel and after a perfectly polite drink, I excused myself and headed out.

Rejection always stings, whatever the reason but we learn to know ourselves better; because it is a reminder that one cannot be all things to all people - no matter how hard you try.

Friday, December 18, 2009

Best Laid Plans...

So I was supposed to be at a massive orgy tonight. 21 couples and single women RSVPed... with about 30 single men joining... it was going to be an epic fuckfest.

Of course, with my luck, the traffic cascading all over the east coast and the snow advisories, I never made it out of Manhattan.

Oh well, it gives me a chance to think about the past year: it has been a good one in many ways... a tremendous amount of sexual encounters, success in my professional life and a great family life as well.

Some things could be better - I still find it hard to relate to the games vanilla women play, and I am so type A that I alienate some people with my candor. Those are things I am working on, however I am still resistant to the bullshit dating game. I am still impatient with people who I think are wasting my time, I do not suffer fools gladly and I am still fiercely independent in how I handle my affairs - sexual and non-sexual.

I am also being won over by the caliber of some of the black women I am now meeting in my professional circles... I do believe IR sex will always do it for me; but I have also begun to meet attractive, personable black women in a way I did not before - and that is not a bad thing.

My couple play has slowed as of late - I have done a lot more parties and one on ones but I think that is something I am going to kick back up in the new year...

I also do think I need to put myself out there more... I have focused a lot of my energy on the sex part of the equation and I am not getting any younger - I am firmly in my late 20s now; and while i think a long term commitment is still far off, it might make sense to get back on that dating bike - in controlled doses of course.

Regardless, 2009 will go down as a great year for the 646hedonist and I am grateful for the fun, the partners, the sex, the opportunities, my friends and family. I am also grateful to everyone who reads and supports this blog.

I will continue to look for more ways to broaden the readership in the next year.

Happy Holidays!

Friday, September 18, 2009

Friday Night Fuck....with a twist of domination

It has been a hectic few weeks - with work, projects and various career initiatives pulling me in a variety of directions. Unfortunately, with ms y being a little clingy and work pushing me around, I haven't had any time for anything but work and career issues....

Thankfully I was able to change that tonight. I hooked up with a Greek lady off of AFF. I won't lie, she wasn't the hottest chica I've done in my extra-curricular career.... but she did let me tap into a side of me that I don't usually exhibit.

You see, said hook up has had a lot of non-consensual/submissive fantasies.... And while I can be dominant, it is not my general style of play....However, given her interests, I was intrigued.

And as such, I put together a domination situation/roleplay sequence just for her. I made her meet me in public without any underwear on... and she had to do what I demanded for a half hour. I also made her bring along her favorite sex toy....

I guess I surprised myself with how dominant I became - throat gagging, face fucking, cock slapping; my new friend was game for (almost) everything. I made her suck my dick while fucking herself with the vibrator, gagged her numerous times till she lost her gag reflex, slapped her across the face - with my cock and with my hands (lightly, no bruises here) and called her a bitch, a slut, a whore; I also fucked her with supreme abandon, pinning her down, pulling her hair, .... I choked her - which I do not usually do, but I think the fact that she was so game was a massive turn on for me.

And she loved it.

We fucked numerous times over 4 hrs, I came multiples - including via one very memorable titty fuck and blow job combo I will not soon forget.

While the raunch factor in this particular encounter was off the charts, (I watched her get dressed, then I hiked up her skirt and bent her over my bed for one last round of doggy goodness), I am not sure that I need to get to that level of dominance. I really enjoyed it, but I also enjoy sex when the girl I am with is enthusiastic in general.

I guess the honest to God answer for me is that I will always need a certain level of dominance in my physical encounters, especially if they are just casual; I do know, having been there before in a relationship, that the desire to dominate - all the time - even sexually, fades if there is a real emotional connection; but I think I will always need a sexual partner who understands that part of the physicality that I enjoy is the ying and yang between men and women... and how our bodies fit and interact.

With all that said, I am soooo glad Ms. Alex is throwing an orgy party next Friday... I need some more raunch in my life... and I know a few hot-wives who might be ready to oblige.

PS: It turned out tonight's hook up was new to IR/BBC.... I think it's safe to say that I put in a good performance for all the "brothers" out there. I think she might go black a bit more often in future.....

Friday, July 17, 2009

25 Things about the 646hedonist....

So everyone on Facebook is doing these.... I figured I'd spice things up by doing one for this blog... with some truths, thoughts, goals... etc. Feedback is always appreciated.


1) I have always been a horny bastard and I honestly do not believe that will ever change. I'll be 90 and still scheming for sex in my nursing home.

2) I lost my virginity at 17 to a 20 year old who I would sneak into the house while my parents were at work. Unfortunately, she was not into giving head but the rest of that first experience was pretty damn good.

3) I have a tremendous amount of stamina, I can go for hours. Sometimes it's a blessing, other times a curse. I think it comes from all the years of high school masturbation but I can't really be sure.

4) As someone in the IR/BBC lifestyle, I get a little insecure about penis size. At 7.5 inches I am not the biggest boy in the class, but I do like to think I am always among the most competent.

5) It still stings when dealing with a size queen though - because there is absolutely nothing you can do about changing the size of your dick.

6) Whoever or whatever corporation that comes up with a safe, viable method for increasing penis size a la breast implants will have written themselves a check for generations. They will MINT money hand over fist.

7) I have always been attracted to women who looked different from me - as a young kid I had respective crushes on: south asian and white girls in kindergarten, the princess in the "never ending story" and winnie from "the wonder years".

8) When I need to get sex, sometimes looks as an absolute value have fallen by the wayside.

9) Sometimes I think women do not really understand how horny men get and how frustrating the market for straight men is... I think the fact that they are offered dick every waking minute and they fact that they do not deal with rejection in the same way means we are speaking two very different languages.

10) If the Sex is not great, there will be no relationship. Unfortunately though, the corollary is not true.

11) As a young man, I never understood why some men got into watching their wives or significant others with other men. As I get older, I understand it more and more.

12) I would be less insulted by a suggestion to open a relationship than I would by infidelity.

13) I will always respect a non-manipulative hotwife over a supposedly great but lying, cheating wife.

14) I would be open to allowing a pressure valve release via swinging or casual play if I was in a long term relationship and yes.... including a MFM or allowing her a pass to play with a certain person or people.

15) Right now I am not looking for love, but it would be nice to find one day.

16) I still have a massive wedge on my shoulder from high school and it informs why I have very little patience for some women and the games that they play.

17) If I like you, I want to fuck you. The reverse is not necessarily true.

18) I love to suck on breasts.... real/fake it does not matter. What matters is that the woman enjoys the sensation/feeling.

19) I am always nervous before a sexual encounter, because there is always the possibility it could go bad.

20) While I might be nervous about performance and how I measure up, I am never nervous or insecure about my body. I spend a lot of time working on it and it shows. I measure up to anyone on that count anyday of the week.

21) I am going to stop counting when I get to triple digits.

22) There is a difference between having sex, making love, and fucking.

23) With someone you care about, the line gets blurred because you can do all 3 in the same session.

24) Some of the best times I have had at Parties/orgies are the moments right before the sex, when you see people you're played with and talked to, you chat, you get to know new people and just relax.

25) A woman's orgasm is a very complex thing.... the only thing I can say for sure is that the look on her face at that moment is one that is never duplicated anywhere else. NOTHING else generates that look.... and the fact that I was able to, at that point in time, is a high that I never quite get tired of.

Wednesday, February 18, 2009

My first time

So I am definitely an exhibitionist… (in some ways at least) and I think I am going to keep this going in as discreet yet literary a fashion as possible…. Let me know what you the readers think… even though, I am sure there will be some horrible comments and brain dead comments along the way. I will deal with those as they occur.

With all that said, I am now about to take you back, way back… to when it all began.

It was summer in the Midwest in the early 2000s. I was amusing myself with a 4.0 GPA in summer school, drinking during the days, working at night, barely making it to class and dating/sexing my fellow coeds when I could (and when they agreed).

It was a great summer by any measure.

Then I discovered the world of Yahoo! Clubs as they were called at the time. And of course, I found my way to the sordid, fascinating, underbelly of IR swinging.

This was a fascinating world that seemed to offer up the idea of sex without all the bullshit social kabuki (and this was in college!)

[I would later learn that post-college, social kabuki would become an even more onerous, highly choreographed, low probability, high bullshit dance]

Like anything else in my life, I dove in. Balls to the wall, I tried to learn as much about this new subculture as I could… while also seeing if I expend some of my boundless sexual energy in this new direction.

One thing about sexual fantasies… For most people they are just that: crazy ideas and scenarios to get off to. They are not goals or achievable ideas. And this, in my view is why there are so many flakes in the NSA/Swinging game.

Some people confronted by the very idea of their fantasy becoming reality; back off in sheer horror and cowardice.

Others embrace it.

I was determined to see what this new world was about. And that was how, at age 19, I was introduced to the world of IR swinging.

****

They were a fairly average couple. E., hubby was a machinist. M, the wife was a sweet looking school teacher by day. She had dark hair, massive breasts and a great ass, a curvy milf in a very good way. E., on the other hand, was your Midwest everyman. A little quiet at times, firm handshake, old school glasses, loved to chat about college football.

M, was sweet and personable. She loved teaching and her students and had that sweet Midwest attitude all the way through. She was a walking example of the lady in the streets and the animal tigress in the sheets.

We spoke on Yahoo! Messenger a few times and arranged a meet at a local hotel.

The day of, I was nervous but also very excited.

“Fuck it” I told myself when I thought about backing out, “nothing venture, nothing gained”.

I showed up at their hotel room as planned.

M. was already in her dressing gown.

Loose enough to show me exactly what I was going to be getting later on. Her décolletage had the young animal in me ready to go.

I was dressed in my best impersonation of American Eagle hip. Dark, rumpled shirt, khakis, chuck tailors. At 155lbs and dark complexioned, a nickname like skinny black would not have been out of the question.

Then I got surprised with a strange request….

“Would you mind taking a shower first?” asked E. quietly.

I was puzzled, but the half naked woman lounging on the bed compelled me. I was about to get some in a good way and a shower was a very small price to pay for that.

I hopped in the shower and got the job done military style – 3 minutes of quick efficiency. Fuck my usual 15 – 20 minutes heated mini steam room fiestas; I had a good reason to get into that towel quickly.

I walked out of the shower to a sight I will never forget.

M. was in the middle of the room, stark naked and on her knees with a look of glazed lust in her eyes.

Now as a young man I had seen that look before. Sometimes it took several beers or a really wild party at some frat house for me to get to that point with some of my fellow coeds; over time I would come to recognize it in my future girlfriend’s eyes.

But that day was when I learned to respect and maybe fear, a little, the power of female sexuality.

I needed no prompting. I walked up, took off my towel and stood right in her face.

She did the rest.

Damn! I had heard MILFs were good at certain things but this was something else!

She was moaning, whispering dirty words, telling me to fuck her mouth and how I was making her so wet.

E. was in the corner, moaning encouragement and taking pics. Surprisingly as a first timer, neither bothered me.

I wasn’t sure about why some White men liked seeing their women fucked by black guys… but I took and still take a very utilitarian view of IR swinging… it gets me the freaky, uninhibited sex I and these couples need. And at the end of the encounter, everyone goes back to their lives with no commitments, just hot, freaky memories (and sometimes pictures and video evidence ;-)

We got on the bed… and then proceeded to fuck every which way for the next 2 hours.

After our last round; I lay back catching a 5 minute break (My 19 year old self was determined to milk this for all it was worth, lord knew where my next fix was coming from!) as M. lay beside me, stroking me almost absent mindedly.

It was a scene in our orgiastic theater of the absurd; the salt of the earth Midwestern couple and the adventurous black city boy.

Then M. turned around, looked my 19 year old self dead in the eye and uttered that hitherto unheard question:

“Do you want to fuck me in the ass?"


*****

I would play with M. and E. for the next 2 years on and off till we lost contact.

Unfortunately despite all the fun we had, theirs is a cautionary tale as M. became more and more enamored of her interracial romps and less interested in being E.’s wife.

Last I heard they got divorced and she continued on her BBC riding ways.

Oh well, it was fun, for both of them, at the time.

Fin.