Fin d'ete...

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Smoothing my sexual consumption curve... or how I learned to love the Weekend Sex Party...

For most of my NYC life, I have been focused on Career/Education, Sex with no strings attached, Staying fit/enjoying the social and cultural benefits of the city [in that order].... It has been a great ride but there has always been one riddle I tried to solve; one problem I struggled to crack - even as I went from an NYC newbie to someone who calls this crazy town home....

As a younger NYC bachelor, my biggest headache - especially as what some might term a commitmentphobe - was dealing with flings, getting sex on a regular basis and dealing with that point in plain vanilla dating when the woman you've been seeing finally realizes that yes - you are one of those guys who is looking for something "fun" and non-serious and that no; the sex or the promise of regular sex wouldn't change your mind.

What this would inevitably result in was; in terms of my sexual consumption; a series of flings over the course of the year - usually lasting 2 - 4 months on average, from the first date, through regular sex and then through the "breakup" if you will.

Sometimes the women - all great girls all of them, realized that I wouldn't want anything more and initiated the disengagement, other times, I had to pull the trigger myself. Away from the flings, the year would be punctuated by 2 - 3 swinging adventures (with couples and singles) and one or two one night stands.

Some years - this combo was enough for a decent amount of sex, in others it was woefully lacking. In addition, given my complete and utter aversion to the pathetic big city male habit of acquiring a girlfriend mainly for the sex - this meant that in some years I dealt with some truly epic droughts (one in my first year in the city was as long as 6, may be 8 months). That was a tough year on a variety of fronts.

I know - especially in my occupation, that a lack of stress relief leaves the 646hedonist stressed and angry on almost regular basis. Combining this with my frustration at the fact that Straight Men are the only ones for whom such droughts are acceptable... Women/Gay and Bi people don't work for sex in the same ways that Straight men are and of course you can see why I have decided to never let my life be decided by plain vanilla considerations.

However, in the past year and a half I have taken advantage of; away from dating and swinging one on ones, one of the greatest swinger traditions of all: the weekend party.

Swingers love to party - in groups, one on ones, same room swap, soft play etc. What the party does is that it takes the onus away from the individual partier and puts it in the hand of a gracious host; who provides a venue, makes introductions and basically allows for the X rated equivalent of a mixer... where sex is on hand and everyone can leave satisfied. There are all kinds of parties - gangbang parties, fetish parties, IR parties.... all girl parties...

Usually held on a weekend night, and advertised on a variety of swinger sites and groups... they are the perfect antidote to a tough week - and a way for people like myself to connect with old friends, meet new people and engage in some good old, consensual, Sport fucking.

I have fucked 10 women at a party in a single night, had threesomes at parties and have enjoyed myself at dedicated party houses, have watched women get double penetrated by men they met 5 minutes earlier while their husbands watched, taken XXX rated photos, cavorted in hotel suites and have played in on premise clubs.

But even more compelling than the craziness I just described in the paragraph above is the promise of variety - which is what keeps party goers coming back... more than any bar, the well run, well regarded sex party is smorgasbord of safe, consensual, no holds barred fun... a way for like minded people to explore in a discreet, safe and orgasmic place.. allowing them to leave their lives behind and then to emerge from the weekend, refreshed, glowing and ready to tackle the week and their lives.

And of course, when plain vanilla friends and coworkers ask:

"How was your weekend ?"

The smiling reply comes back: "it was good, I went to a party and caught up with some friends, it was a lot of fun".

God Bless You, you cocksucker....

That's right. God bless the cocksucker, the cock worshiper, the blow-job artiste if you will. The woman who will, via a combination of her mouth, tongue throat and hands, service you to a fulfilling orgasm. They are unsung and unheralded heroes that need more encouragement.

The thought crossed my mind as I was enjoying an exquisite blow job from a blonde hot-wife over the weekend.... a woman whose attention to detail, desire to please and her enjoyment whenever I let go in her mouth put her right up there with some of the best cocksuckers i have ever known (and I've known a few in my time)....

The first time I thought about writing a post/homage if you will to women who give exquisite blow-jobs occurred when I met an IR couple on one of my travels and I asked them how they had gotten together.

Him: Well I put an ad on Craig's list looking for a BBC cock worshiper
She: That's what I love to do. Obviously I had to make sure he was sane and cool.
Him: It didn't take that long for you to do that, we met in a coffee shop and 30 minutes later, we were at my place and you were on your knees.

A few minutes later I got to play with her myself and her beau was right; she was a tremendous cock-sucker. It was her god-given talent.

I truly believe that some women underestimate the power of a good blow-job. , which is why there is still this vocal minority of women who do not do/give oral sex...

God bless them, but the amazing cocksucker knows the power she holds, a power that can be honed with enthusiasm.

I mean, let's face it - some women intrinsically have better rhythm, others feel tighter than others, other women know exactly how to move.... some of this can be taught, some of it can't.... but any woman can learn how to give a great blow-job.

So here's to those women who know how to give the toe-curling, tongue-lashing, body shaking, orgasm inducing blow-jobs I enjoy so much. Reciprocation is definitely your due and yes, you have a right to be popular; you do something I enjoy.... very very much.

Now if only I could find a reliable cock-worshiper of my very own....

The New Party Blues...

So last night I finally got to make it to an IR party out in NJ that I had heard about from a few friends in the IR scene. The party itself did not disappoint, at least 10 couples, a smattering of single ladies and some very action oriented play....

However my performance was tepid to say the least.

For some reason I was more than a little tentative; acting like a newbie despite my experience .... It didn't help that I did not get to play with some of the hotter chicks at the party but that's also just a case of being in the right place at the right time...

I have told you all about my binge-fucking craziness but last night I was positively restrained - I only fucked 2 new women, a few blowjobs, and there were periods of time when my little man was just not cooperating - at all.

Chatting with a few other guys in the swing scene; the consensus was that it was a combination of a new environment, some self selection on my part (and I did not say this but you all know how I feel about group activity with people I do not know).

I have swung long enough to know that you can't force it and that you cannot expect to be on point every night - being able to fuck 10 different women and a few multiple times... but goddamit, that's what I've done in the past....

Yesterday was a subpar night, but i'll take it over no sex at all... here's hoping for better swinging nights some time in future soon though!

Friday Night Fuck....with a twist of domination

It has been a hectic few weeks - with work, projects and various career initiatives pulling me in a variety of directions. Unfortunately, with ms y being a little clingy and work pushing me around, I haven't had any time for anything but work and career issues....

Thankfully I was able to change that tonight. I hooked up with a Greek lady off of AFF. I won't lie, she wasn't the hottest chica I've done in my extra-curricular career.... but she did let me tap into a side of me that I don't usually exhibit.

You see, said hook up has had a lot of non-consensual/submissive fantasies.... And while I can be dominant, it is not my general style of play....However, given her interests, I was intrigued.

And as such, I put together a domination situation/roleplay sequence just for her. I made her meet me in public without any underwear on... and she had to do what I demanded for a half hour. I also made her bring along her favorite sex toy....

I guess I surprised myself with how dominant I became - throat gagging, face fucking, cock slapping; my new friend was game for (almost) everything. I made her suck my dick while fucking herself with the vibrator, gagged her numerous times till she lost her gag reflex, slapped her across the face - with my cock and with my hands (lightly, no bruises here) and called her a bitch, a slut, a whore; I also fucked her with supreme abandon, pinning her down, pulling her hair, .... I choked her - which I do not usually do, but I think the fact that she was so game was a massive turn on for me.

And she loved it.

We fucked numerous times over 4 hrs, I came multiples - including via one very memorable titty fuck and blow job combo I will not soon forget.

While the raunch factor in this particular encounter was off the charts, (I watched her get dressed, then I hiked up her skirt and bent her over my bed for one last round of doggy goodness), I am not sure that I need to get to that level of dominance. I really enjoyed it, but I also enjoy sex when the girl I am with is enthusiastic in general.

I guess the honest to God answer for me is that I will always need a certain level of dominance in my physical encounters, especially if they are just casual; I do know, having been there before in a relationship, that the desire to dominate - all the time - even sexually, fades if there is a real emotional connection; but I think I will always need a sexual partner who understands that part of the physicality that I enjoy is the ying and yang between men and women... and how our bodies fit and interact.

With all that said, I am soooo glad Ms. Alex is throwing an orgy party next Friday... I need some more raunch in my life... and I know a few hot-wives who might be ready to oblige.

PS: It turned out tonight's hook up was new to IR/BBC.... I think it's safe to say that I put in a good performance for all the "brothers" out there. I think she might go black a bit more often in future.....

Another Holiday Weekend, Another gangbang

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Trip Update: Sin City Edition

Hello dear readers. I am coming to you from the madness that is sin city. It is 9AM as I blog the events of my extended West Coast Vacation but it might as well be 6pm or 4am. Time really has no meaning on the Vegas Strip.

My trip so far has been a blast, I hit two of the three major cities in California, a beautiful California beach/mountain town and have been in Sin City for the past two nights. I have had some great dinners, partied with old friends and explored new places. I have also taken a LOT of photos.

I have also had the opportunity to indulge myself in my other hobby: sex.

Suprisingly enough, my first encounter in NorCal came about via a CL posting. Granted, it was in Mr. Newmark’s home city so one would hope that it worked out, but as I have mentioned before, CL has become spambot/Pic Collector/Flake Central. Hence I was very surprised to have been contacted by a nice hot wife couple who lived in one of the surrounding suburbs.

I had a great hotel while I was there (thanks Amex travel!) and as such was able to host in style. The day was a little touch and go however, with my new friend calling earlier in the day to cancel, then texting later at night to say she was feeling much better and wanted to go through with the meet.

Despite the complications, it was a hot play date. Her delightful breasts, oral skills and great attitude made for a very hot time.

However I must say, that the events of the past 24 hours do take the cake.

I had the good fortune to visit the red rooster while here in vegas: (www.vegasredrooster.com) with some friends who I have played with on the east coast but who happened to be based out of LV.

It was a surreal yet positive experience and definitely worth a visit. There is a large group area and several private play rooms, with a variety of couples and singles allowed in. The rooster itself is a bit of an homage to the golden age of swinging.... (With all the positive and negative connotations that might imply).

However I did not have the time to ponder those thoughts because I was engaged, first in sex with my swinging friend from back east, and then with her and her girlfriend in my first MFF threesome. I don't think I will ever forget the sight of fucking one woman while watching her face buried deep in another woman's pussy. It was pretty fucking hot and despite my best efforts, 10 - 15 minutes of that action was what it took. This was after a pretty long one on one session with my friend before the 3 some.

I just found out that the friend I was supposed to play with on Sunday evening just cancelled on me.... seeing as this was a CL hookup, i might have been talking to a spambot for all I know.

Oh well, the trip has been a blast so far. We'll see what we can do about these next two days.

Have fun and stay safe everyone.

A very bizarre 36 hours....

So while some of my good friends are slowing down their recent cycles of hot sex, mine is actually picking up. Since my tropical vacation, I have had a few encounters here and there but nothing that really satiated my needs in the way I like till yesterday. However, the past 36 hours have been a roller coaster of madness ....


Wednesday started with me waking up really horny. I know, not much different from any other day. However, Wednesday afternoon, I had set up a meet with a cheating wife via Adult Friend Finder. I am of two minds when it comes to fucking (cheating) married women; I have done it - usually because I follow my dick wherever it leads, but it is never the ideal situation. A cheating encounter also does nothing to ease my perennial trust and intimacy issues.

To be fair, this wife was not the hottest wife I have fucked, but I really wanted a raunchy encounter and that was all she was looking for too, so I overlooked a few things I shouldn't have and I forgot to ask for a face pic. Bad move, but not the worst.

I was supposed to be hosting the encounter but during the day, she called with an update: she was house sitting in outer borough; would I mind a change of venue.

Now people who know me well, know that for whatever reason, the hedonist does not really leave the island; for the US open, for some really good food but I am not super knowledgeable about the outer boroughs. I am not being a hater, just stating some facts. This lack of knowledge though, would come back to bite me in the ass.

I jumped on the train following her directions. My anticipation was a little hard to hide, but I am thankful for Kenneth Cole jackets. I walked out of the train station and straight into the 'hood. That little fact really didn't help my comfort level but fuck it: I was committed and on my way to the address I was given.

I got there, she let me up and we jumped into it. She was enthusiastic and she hadn't misrepresented her looks but after an initial bout of enthusiasm on my part, I lost interest. We weren't gelling in the way I like and while I like to believe that I will go through with about anything for an orgasm, this clearly was not the case ....

I politely extricated myself from the situation, disappointing as it was for both of us and made my way back to the subway... I was pissed, being the stud validates me in a very real way... and yes, I know "these things happen" - that really did not make me feel any better at the time.

Regardless, I went through with the rest of my day, a little upset and determined to get n end of day drink at one of my favorite establishments. I finally rolled onto my barstool around 9pm and caught up with bartenders and some friends in the area. 1 drink turned into 4 and sure enough, I was slamming them back and shooting the shit with new and old friends alike.

"Are you out and about" - came the unexpected text from Ms. Y, an acquaintance of mine from my professional network. She is a petite blonde with a great ass and a penchant for high heels, but at this point in time was just a very cool, yet attractive person to hang out with. As some of you know, I am very careful about mixing work/networking with pleasure... so while she was great to look at and fun to drink with, I believed that would be the full extent of our interaction.

"Yes I am - actually headed downtown for a bit, do you want to grab a drink at XXXXX" - she agreed and I rolled into the bar 15 minutes later for what I thought would be a few quick drinks.

However, conversation flowed more than anything else and we began to share war stories and dating adventures and misadventures in NYC. It turned out that Ms. Y had more of an edge to her than I thought....

As we walked back to our respective residences, somehow I got invited to swing by her place "quickly". However, the moment I walked in and jumped her, it looked like it would be a good night. I was, however a little gun shy given what had happened earlier in the day and I did not want to be disappointed again.

However, when she disappeared for 5 minutes and reappeared with some very hot items of clothing and when it became very apparent that our chemistry was super compatible, we got into the swing of things and it turned into a very late night/early morning... I certainly did not see that coming, and I'll try to see her again.

We have a compatible fucking style and I would like to explore more. I also have to admit that the lingerie, heels, sex kitten look is probably more important to me than I realized.

Then to top it all off; if things had not been bizarre enough, Michael Jackson passed away yesterday.... definitely a crazy set of events... but one that eventually worked out for me.

addendum:

While best laid plans can definitely go to hell as I have seen before, I have some trips, parties and orgies on the horizon that should be fun and should hopefully give me some new posting fodder. I am looking forward to some hot sex in the next few weeks and I have worked to put all the pieces in place.... we'll see how it all pans out but there should be some orgasms provided by some hotwives in my future.

The story that started this all....

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