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Help Wanted....

Description:

Our client, an experienced, swinging, athletic, endowed and well educated SBM is looking for someone to fill his NYC Mistress slot.

Preferences are for WFs but all will be considered.

This position would be the #1 NYC Mistress for this particular client and would require both the potential employee and the client to engage in multiple acts of pleasurable behavior on a regular basis. Our client does have Mistresses/FBs in other cities around the country so this would be a regional position - with room for advancement (given the right candidate).

Responsibilities:

The primary responsibility of the NYC Mistress will be to engage in crazy sex with our client. However this is a two way street.

Our client has an M.Cu (Master of Cunnilingus) qualification with a massive amount of field work (embarked upon both domestically and internationally) to back up his academic qualifications. He has also a specialization in "doggy stylus" and has done some extensive research on that urban phenomenon know as the "money shot".

Finally, our client places an emphasis on fitness because he will expect the FB to accompany him to some dinners, shows, cocktail bars and museums as part of the deal. Rest assured, our client hits the gym religiously.

Requirements:

5 years + experience is a must.
Experience with melanin preferred but not required.
A Masters in BJ administration and sexual logistics is a requirement for this position.
Candidates with a preference for the "doggy stylus"school of thought are well received.
Ds/DDs on an appropriate frame are a plus.

Finally, this is not an analyst or associate position. Candidates will need to be proactive, flexible, horny, enthusiastic and verbally expressive, with the ability to work long, marathon sessions on a regular basis.

Compensation:
Extremely competitive. Base Salary will consist of multiple orgasms.
Bonus - discretionary with the opportunity for group sex, swinging adventures and any other kinkiness the NYC FB can suggest.

Benefits will include companionship, dates, vacations and travel etc.

Employment will be at will; discretion is required.

Feel free to contact 646hedonist if interested in the above position.

Hotel Sex, Public Sex....

Now as most of you, my loyal readers know, I have a lot of encounters in hotels.... I have almost encyclopedic knowledge of some the best hotels in this country and also of some the best to do you know what.... I have enjoyed excellent (room) service in Las Vegas, Miami, San Francisco, Chicago amongst a host of cities... but till lately, while I had done the IR nasty in a few NYC hotels - it hadn't been anything special.

Till lately that is. .

A few months ago I met a very nice, very hot - hot wife from the tri-state area at a bbc sex party. She was a petite blonde, tight body, MILF (in her 40s) with 36dds and a killer personality. Basically she had a porn-star body, with a cool girl mind.

Needless to say we hit it off. Her husband is a class act as well; a successful, older businessman who enjoys watching his wife indulge herself when they get the time.

Who am I to say no to helping such fine people be happy.

Especially given that I aim to please hotwives whenever and wherever I find them.

As a result - given how well we've hit it off, I have had a few assignations with said hotwife in various hotels all over the city.

And I must say, it sounds like a best hit's list:

The Penthouse at the Benjamin - check
The Hudson Hotel - check

But what I am most proud of, was last weekend - we engaged in that most New York of activities; public sex at the Standard Hotel in the Meatpacking.

So if around 11pm, you were in the meatpacking - maybe in your slinky black dress and heels or in your best hipster casual, on your way to Tenjune or Provocateur and you happened to look up and engage in the following conversation:

"Is that a bird, a plane"

"No it looks like a blonde pornstar being fucked from behind in that hotel room by that very handsome, athletic young black man"

"Wow, she looks like she's really enjoying it"

"I especially like how she's bent over on the ottoman parallel to the window"

That was us for several hours that night - we did it a few times right next to the window and while I'd love to say I was looking to see people's reactions - I actually did stay very focused on the "task at hand" if you will.

For those who saw: Thanks for watching; this was one I really wanted to cross off my bucket list!

Joining the Century Club... finally...

So I finally made it into the solid triple digits this weekend after what has been a torrid year and a half of crazy swinging and adventures. It was capped off at this weekend's sex party's with exploits that included a smoking hot NYC based Russian wife - whose fellatio technique was off the charts, some other attractive suburban hotwives getting their chocolate fix and some swinging regulars I know well.

Now, I know, it is a little juvenile (and some might say unnecessarily macho and sexist) to celebrate the idea of any number of sexual partners as an achievement but I remember how much work it used to take to get *one* partner into the sack during some of my worse plain vanilla days (with no guarantee that the sex was going to be anything better than mediocre)... and let's be real, the former nerd with the wedge on his shoulder in me has never forgotten the days when it felt like I would NEVER get the sex I want, in the quantities and with the requisite amount of abandon and enthusiasm I personally require for my own warped definition of happiness.

So What Now ?

I don't know. I don't think in the long run, that averaging tens of partners a month is sustainable but it does feel great to be able to f*ck like a rockstar every now and then, with no strings, no expectations other than those for good sex and no social kabuki to rub me the wrong way. I remember talking to an older swinger a few years ago about how I would stop counting once I joined the century club and I remember him chuckling... he said he was going to stop counting once he broke a 1000 - at that point in time he was in the 800s....

To be fair, how does plain vanilla monogamy look attractive once you have achieved a sh*tload of your personal sexual fantasies - MFF and MFM threesomes, Gangbangs, Lesbian viewing parties, multiple women in 24 hours, etc ? When you can, with a lot less work, get the sexual variety you need with much less effort than at any other time in your life ?

For me, and I can only speak for myself - the lasso of regular sex; which is why a lot of guys get into relationships - just isn't good enough. I need more, I need a hot woman, with an insatiable sex drive - and I'm still not sure that justifies a relationship.

My problem, my flaw if you will is that sex is my drug and I am never satisfied.... so I guess for now, I'll continue being the high functioning addict I am.

Tomorrow is always a new day.

New Summer, New Friends...

Sorry for the absence dear readers. I was very busy throughout May, with travel, work and other obligations. It was a month for some R & R too. I indulged myself in Sin City and in a few other places on the west coast.

I made some new friends, K & B. Both very engaging ladies in the bay area who are into BBC for fun... and some hot nights were had by all.

However, this summer will not be as crazy as my last one. I have made some new friends including a particularly engaging hotwife from the NJ area who really knows how to treat me right. It is safe to say that while I will not be indulging myself in the craziness, I will be keeping busy with playmates, old and new this summer.

Watch this space.

Smoothing my sexual consumption curve... or how I learned to love the Weekend Sex Party...

For most of my NYC life, I have been focused on Career/Education, Sex with no strings attached, Staying fit/enjoying the social and cultural benefits of the city [in that order].... It has been a great ride but there has always been one riddle I tried to solve; one problem I struggled to crack - even as I went from an NYC newbie to someone who calls this crazy town home....

As a younger NYC bachelor, my biggest headache - especially as what some might term a commitmentphobe - was dealing with flings, getting sex on a regular basis and dealing with that point in plain vanilla dating when the woman you've been seeing finally realizes that yes - you are one of those guys who is looking for something "fun" and non-serious and that no; the sex or the promise of regular sex wouldn't change your mind.

What this would inevitably result in was; in terms of my sexual consumption; a series of flings over the course of the year - usually lasting 2 - 4 months on average, from the first date, through regular sex and then through the "breakup" if you will.

Sometimes the women - all great girls all of them, realized that I wouldn't want anything more and initiated the disengagement, other times, I had to pull the trigger myself. Away from the flings, the year would be punctuated by 2 - 3 swinging adventures (with couples and singles) and one or two one night stands.

Some years - this combo was enough for a decent amount of sex, in others it was woefully lacking. In addition, given my complete and utter aversion to the pathetic big city male habit of acquiring a girlfriend mainly for the sex - this meant that in some years I dealt with some truly epic droughts (one in my first year in the city was as long as 6, may be 8 months). That was a tough year on a variety of fronts.

I know - especially in my occupation, that a lack of stress relief leaves the 646hedonist stressed and angry on almost regular basis. Combining this with my frustration at the fact that Straight Men are the only ones for whom such droughts are acceptable... Women/Gay and Bi people don't work for sex in the same ways that Straight men are and of course you can see why I have decided to never let my life be decided by plain vanilla considerations.

However, in the past year and a half I have taken advantage of; away from dating and swinging one on ones, one of the greatest swinger traditions of all: the weekend party.

Swingers love to party - in groups, one on ones, same room swap, soft play etc. What the party does is that it takes the onus away from the individual partier and puts it in the hand of a gracious host; who provides a venue, makes introductions and basically allows for the X rated equivalent of a mixer... where sex is on hand and everyone can leave satisfied. There are all kinds of parties - gangbang parties, fetish parties, IR parties.... all girl parties...

Usually held on a weekend night, and advertised on a variety of swinger sites and groups... they are the perfect antidote to a tough week - and a way for people like myself to connect with old friends, meet new people and engage in some good old, consensual, Sport fucking.

I have fucked 10 women at a party in a single night, had threesomes at parties and have enjoyed myself at dedicated party houses, have watched women get double penetrated by men they met 5 minutes earlier while their husbands watched, taken XXX rated photos, cavorted in hotel suites and have played in on premise clubs.

But even more compelling than the craziness I just described in the paragraph above is the promise of variety - which is what keeps party goers coming back... more than any bar, the well run, well regarded sex party is smorgasbord of safe, consensual, no holds barred fun... a way for like minded people to explore in a discreet, safe and orgasmic place.. allowing them to leave their lives behind and then to emerge from the weekend, refreshed, glowing and ready to tackle the week and their lives.

And of course, when plain vanilla friends and coworkers ask:

"How was your weekend ?"

The smiling reply comes back: "it was good, I went to a party and caught up with some friends, it was a lot of fun".

Outstanding Dick Riding...

Take some notes ladies... this is what being fit does for you:

Outstanding work.

God Bless You, you cocksucker....

That's right. God bless the cocksucker, the cock worshiper, the blow-job artiste if you will. The woman who will, via a combination of her mouth, tongue throat and hands, service you to a fulfilling orgasm. They are unsung and unheralded heroes that need more encouragement.

The thought crossed my mind as I was enjoying an exquisite blow job from a blonde hot-wife over the weekend.... a woman whose attention to detail, desire to please and her enjoyment whenever I let go in her mouth put her right up there with some of the best cocksuckers i have ever known (and I've known a few in my time)....

The first time I thought about writing a post/homage if you will to women who give exquisite blow-jobs occurred when I met an IR couple on one of my travels and I asked them how they had gotten together.

Him: Well I put an ad on Craig's list looking for a BBC cock worshiper
She: That's what I love to do. Obviously I had to make sure he was sane and cool.
Him: It didn't take that long for you to do that, we met in a coffee shop and 30 minutes later, we were at my place and you were on your knees.

A few minutes later I got to play with her myself and her beau was right; she was a tremendous cock-sucker. It was her god-given talent.

I truly believe that some women underestimate the power of a good blow-job. , which is why there is still this vocal minority of women who do not do/give oral sex...

God bless them, but the amazing cocksucker knows the power she holds, a power that can be honed with enthusiasm.

I mean, let's face it - some women intrinsically have better rhythm, others feel tighter than others, other women know exactly how to move.... some of this can be taught, some of it can't.... but any woman can learn how to give a great blow-job.

So here's to those women who know how to give the toe-curling, tongue-lashing, body shaking, orgasm inducing blow-jobs I enjoy so much. Reciprocation is definitely your due and yes, you have a right to be popular; you do something I enjoy.... very very much.

Now if only I could find a reliable cock-worshiper of my very own....

Thinking about Peter Pan Syndrome...

So I was out last week with some old colleagues and I ran into one... an attractive asian girl now in her late 20s... who was mulling over some life changes.

She was thinking about leaving NYC, where she'd grown up her whole life for the relative safety of the midwest.

And why was she making this change... well the subtext was that after years of being in the "scene" (she went to one of the fancy private schools in the city) and having her fun, she was now finding it hard in her late 20s to find a nice professional young man in NYC to settle down with.

And of course she blamed this on the "Peter Pan Syndrome" prevalent here in NYC.

I find this idea fascinating as I hear it more and more as we age... and girls my age are trying to get themselves married off/locked down etc.

I have two criticisms of Peter Pan syndrome - one is structural and the other is behavioral, and b) I believe that women enable it... and should expect it.

First of all, in a town like New York, it takes a long time to build a career. In my business, career success is measured in 7 figures and it takes a lot of dedication, workaholism and focus to get to that level. As such, a lot of the driven, focused young men who might make good romantic partners are very focused on getting ahead.... as they should.. because NYC women (the ones worth dating anyway) make it very clear that they do not date losers. So for most of their 20s, you'll find the career focused New Yorker dating around, but saving his energies and his focus for his career.

And finally, when that career success comes; the first thing on his mind is not a desire to rush out and get married. He's not the one with the biological clock... he wants to enjoy the fruits of his labor... and now, he's finally in a position where he can work a little less and women can work a bit more.

Let's face it - Women do not work for sex and they have an advantage on men from ages 15 till 30; maybe 35 for a sub set... but then the advantage switches to men who have gotten their act together. So why; especially if you are a man trying to enjoy the companionship of a variety of women, are you going to stop when you finally have a good thing going.

Unfortunately it's a hard reality for women to hear, but Peter Pan Syndrome in NYC is caused by a combination of structural issues (you need to make a lot more money to be successful here) and game theory (men now have an upper hand in dating and mating, why would they let that go).

So while it's tragic that my former colleague is leaving our fair town, it might just be what she needs.... the cost of living and the opportunity cost of marriage... both financially and sexually is lower in the midwest.

The New Party Blues...

So last night I finally got to make it to an IR party out in NJ that I had heard about from a few friends in the IR scene. The party itself did not disappoint, at least 10 couples, a smattering of single ladies and some very action oriented play....

However my performance was tepid to say the least.

For some reason I was more than a little tentative; acting like a newbie despite my experience .... It didn't help that I did not get to play with some of the hotter chicks at the party but that's also just a case of being in the right place at the right time...

I have told you all about my binge-fucking craziness but last night I was positively restrained - I only fucked 2 new women, a few blowjobs, and there were periods of time when my little man was just not cooperating - at all.

Chatting with a few other guys in the swing scene; the consensus was that it was a combination of a new environment, some self selection on my part (and I did not say this but you all know how I feel about group activity with people I do not know).

I have swung long enough to know that you can't force it and that you cannot expect to be on point every night - being able to fuck 10 different women and a few multiple times... but goddamit, that's what I've done in the past....

Yesterday was a subpar night, but i'll take it over no sex at all... here's hoping for better swinging nights some time in future soon though!

Calling myself out on my own flakiness....

So a few months ago I posted about flakiness being a particular and peculiar affliction of young women in NYC. I have to say dear readers, that I have to eat some of my own words at this point because I too just flaked very badly over the course of the past weekend .....

But in my defense... I flaked on a first date with a plain vanilla chica (who may or may not have given me the hot sex I needed over the weekend) to attend an orgy in one of the outer boroughs where I was thoroughly pleased by several women over the course of the evening.

Was it really so wrong... I was horny and wanted sex... not companionship or conversation...

Take this mea culpa for what is .... I flaked. I'm sorry. But the sex was worth it ;-)

In Defense of Tiger Woods.

So Tiger apologized last Friday. He looked contrite, apologetic and he knew that he had done wrong to his wife, and yes, he knew that he had definitely jeopardized his relationships with his sponsors (who had made him one of the richest men alive) and he had to make amends to them too.

So he did, with the same clarity, self discipline and focus that he has shown throughout his athletic career.

But to the rest of us; he doesn't owe us a damn thing. Professional Athletes aren't role models... they are entertainers and anyone who thinks otherwise must also believe that both the tooth fairy and Santa Claus visit on a regular basis.

I will not lie; as a former black nerd, I admire tiger, despite this brouhaha about his extramarital sex exploits I still do. I admire his mental and physical discipline, his ability to shape his body into something more and his ability to transform that mental discipline into success in his chosen profession.

And as a black man who dates/mates interracially I appreciated his game - his ability to bag the hot swedish former model. He did it fucking right. No baby mama bullshit. No settling here for some discounted version of what his ability and net worth should get him, no domestic violence. Hell, even the mistresses were a hodge podge of great looking talent. There are many guys who would give their right arms to "date" any of the women tiger enjoyed on a regular, non-committal basis. And of course this pissed off some "sisters": who of course always speak for the community: including the many black men that they have alienated over the years.)

(http://tinyurl.com/tiger-hedonist)

So where does Tiger go from here ?

It looks like; for now anyway, that Tiger wants to keep his family together. That is his focus. He will be back to golf but let's be clear - the family man image is gone. He can recover, much like Kobe did from the rape accusations but there will be the mountains of press and tabloid reports in his past.

I personally think that's a good thing. He always had more of an edge than he let on. And now the world knows.... he can go out there and dominate, may be swear a little more freely and have a bit more of an edge to him. We all know he likes to dominate on the course and in the bedroom - if you don't like that - fine, but what the fuck have you - all of you who judge him - achieved in your pitiful, peon-like little lives.

Tiger is a self made alpha male and a winner. He'll be back to his winning ways in short order, in the meantime he has been more successful, with women, his chosen profession and life than any of the so called moralists who are appalled by his behavior. I don't know about anyone else... but in my view - winning is what counts. Everything else is just talk... and cheap talk at that.

Random Vegas Thoughts

• This town has a lot of talent, both good and bad. I am always surprised by how much swinging, debauchery and bad behavior happens out here. Definitely my kind of town for a few days but beyond the strip - there isn't much to it. I could never live here.
  
• Extremely attractive women are still my kryptonite. I measure "hawtness" on an exponential scale... any thing up to a high 7/low 8 I can deal with and crush, extremely hot women take me out of my game a little bit... not good, especially since 2010 is all about improving the overall quality of my conquests...
  
• Leaving NYC, I am always reminded of how fat middle america is... goddamn, there really is an obesity epidemic out there. You'd never know living in Manhattan... but wow, there is a real health problem out there.
  
• The recession is not over. Occupancy at the hip and well known hotel we are staying at feels like 60 may be 70% - not good given the all the new construction that is coming online in this town... Vegas will bounce back, it always does...
• We hung out with some coeds from the LA area on Saturday night - we had a table at one of the newest clubs in town; while they were great to look at, photograph and dance with, talking with them was like pulling teeth. Apart from wanting a blowjob or doggystyle, not sure I have anything in common with a 21 year old... no matter how blonde or attractive her ass is... my problem is that I am bad at faking my disinterest.
• Douches with Hot Chicks. Enough Said.
• Married women fucking around. Enough Said.
  
• Oh well, last night here. Gonna get a good meal, some stogies, catch up with friends and see where the chips fall. I am turning down sex with my vegas swinger friends to hang out with my plain vanilla peeps.... just trying to be a good friend that's all.
  

Dispatches from Sin City...

Ah, lovely Sin City - one of my favorite places in America to vacation and party... whether plain vanilla or swinging style; I always have fun here.

I am here with vanilla friends who wanted to get away from NYC... so for the most part I will be doing the usual trifecta of eating, clubbing and socializing; but as you all know, I had to also get in my share of hot interracial sex on this trip.

And did I ever...

I fucked my 2nd porn star (ever) on this trip - the first of 4 IR encounters at the Rooster last night... I am not going to lie; it was the first nut and I got it out a little faster than I would have liked (her wet, tight pussy did not help; thankfully I put in much longer, more orgasmic performances with the other three ladies I got to play with)

There was also a nice milfy blonde from the bay area there with her very cool boyfriend who rode and let herself be ridden by the hedonist; she was awesome to talk to... and her japanese was impeccable!

My usual play partner and her girlfriend (who had given me my first MFF threesome last summer) were on hand and of course, the sex was great with them.

And yes, I ate a lot of pussy; but you know what they say; practice makes perfect.

It was a great night, the rooster is a very kitschy swing club that can sometimes feel like it is stuck in the 70s, but once you look past that (and with the right company), you can have a LOT of great sex with the right people there. I am fortunate that whenever I visit, my swinging friends introduce me to everyone and as such, I get introductions, referrals and a lot of orgasms as a result.

And this was just the first night....

Day 2 is going to be plain vanilla for the most part; but I have been emailing back and forth with another hot wife couple who enjoys BBC... who knows, maybe I get lucky on this trip and get to enjoy my own version of a "vegas double" before heading back to the coldness of the east coast.

Meet and Greet/Meet and Fuck...

So I had a meet and greet (with a hotwife couple off of AFF) earlier this week. Unfortunately it did not work out like I had planned but I ended up thinking about my experiences with meet and greets... and with meet and fucks...

First, let me explain my terminology:

A meet and greet - in my experience is as the name implies, a chance for a couple to check out another couple or single person, much like a first date, it is a way to see if there are any compatibility issues and can sometimes be over a period as short as 15 minutes to as long as several "dates".

A meet and fuck - which is where I have had the majority of my experience is when a couple or a single lady meet with the intention of sex at the meet. The difference is really one of style because for a meet and fuck, phone calls, text messaging and email takes the place of the date as a way to ascertain (and build) chemistry.

The couple in question for my meet and greet was definitely in the latter school. They did not consider themselves swingers and they liked to "let things evolve".

God bless them. However, my personality - as type A as it is, does not bond well with such couples... and I think that it probably shows. The couples and swingers - like Ms. Alex that I have had great relationships and phenomenal encounters with know exactly what we're there for.

For me Swinging and NSA encounters really are all about the great sex... not the pursuit, not the build up but the sweaty, raunchy action itself.

Fortunately the world is a large place and there are plenty of guys willing to hang around the hoop and play out the "seduction" scenario... and if that is your fantasy, I am definitely not knocking it. However, I have the most success coming in as the stud - I am there to sexually satisfy, add a level of spice and physicality that you might not get, I am present for the great sex... and while I enjoy the chit-chat and get to know you stuff... unless you are one of my old swinging friends... it is all about what we do - on the bed, on the floor, in the shower... etc.

Needless to say, my style and theirs did not gel and after a perfectly polite drink, I excused myself and headed out.

Rejection always stings, whatever the reason but we learn to know ourselves better; because it is a reminder that one cannot be all things to all people - no matter how hard you try.