A few thoughts on NYC Dating, Social Kabuki and the pursuit of sex.

So, I went on a date yesterday.

Rebound Chica, as I will term her, was someone I met a few weeks ago at a random club/lounge in the Lower East Side.

She wasn't the hottest chica, nor was she really slutty. I believe the technical term is "cute".

I had hoped that after a few dates she might put out but instead she kept wasting my time, being rude on the date by texting her (male) "friends" all the time and of course - exiting early to head back to her home in the outer boroughs.

This was date #2.

I wasn't feeling the chemistry and I have no time to waste on flighty nyc girls who will not have sex but want to keep me in their back pocket (while they might be presumably f***in someone else; who doesn't have to take them to high end cocktail bars to get the pussy).

So after putting her in a cab, I sent her a text message telling her that I thought we were looking for different things and that I was moving on. I will not waste my time.


And people ask why I hardly try anymore.

I don't see the payoff, I take said female out to drinks, act polite and I get less action than her blackberry.

Of course through this all, this girl is acting like drinks and being wined and dined are her birthright. She's not on my level economically or even from an equitable looks point of view - so the only thing she has to offer is sex; and she DID not do that in an acceptable enough timeframe for me.

Yet I am supposed to keep calling and texting in the hopes that I get some (most likely mediocre) sex ?

Fuck that.

I can go to a sex party or meet one of the couples I have known over the years, not have to jump through hoops and fuck 3 - 5 women in an evening. I am also guaranteed to enjoy the sex in a way that is a toss up with most plain vanilla chicas.

Now I accept that I am hard on women. Hardest on black women. My first experiences in High School with girls were not positive and I have never really forgotten that. Couple that with my very healthy sex drive and I have become jaded, cynical and almost brutal in my approach to the NYC dating game.

I guess this means I should focus my energies on getting sex without social kabuki.

Regular dating, for now anyway, just annoys me.

Shooting for a summer of sex...

Another weekend, another sex party.

I was in Long Island for a sex party this long holiday weekend and while it was not as enjoyable as the other party I went to a few weeks ago, it was still a good time. I'd give it a B/B+ but I still managed to get some great sucking and fucking in. I also managed to meet a couple from the old days - when Mr. Nine used to throw his IR parties in the tri-state area.

I did have some issues though; this was supposed to be a Gangbang party; and there were a LOT of guys, many of them first timers and also a bunch of dudes who would always crowd out or gain some new found courage whenever I started playing with a couple or single lady. These guys would never make the first move, and then once the quarry was warmed up, they would all get courage. Since I usually hate group stuff unless I am VERY VERY comfortable, I had to disengage a few times from playing. However there was one lady who gave exquisite blowjobs and she kept me happy for most of the evening. I also got to fuck some very lusty ladies.... so all in all, it was not a bad way to spend a friday evening.


Thoughts on the summer:

I went to my first sex party this summer on a whim. I was tired of dealing with NYC women and their social kabuki shit. I was a little angry at how things had ended up with the tall blonde and I just wanted to act out and get my desires met. Well, I got my wish and then some at the first party. Ms Alex was a gracious host and a great fuck - as always, and she just invited me back to another party.

I think I am going to go again.

I was going to focus on traveling, reading, writing, concerts and great dining experiences this summer. I will do all those things but as a true hedonist, I think I need to pursue a multiplicity of sexual experiences as well.

I always want to fuck as many women as possible (and I am never satisfied) but for a while there, I ignored a lot of the sex party and couple invitations I was getting for a variety of reasons: I was happy with the couples/adventures I was having, I enjoyed combining sexual adventure with travel and some of the prospects really didn't move me.

I think I am back to being in a fuck - it kind of mind frame. More sex, especially in my personal situation - single, free as a bird and focused on career and education - can only be a good thing.

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A few thoughts on life, love and this weekend's sex party.

I had to get out of New York this weekend.

I needed a break from the city. I do this every few months... and this time was no exception. I also needed to get back on the casual sexin'/IR partyin' wagon in a big way.

You see, for the past 8 - 9 weeks I had become infatuated with a tall, athletic and gorgeous younger blonde. She was hot enough and smart enough to be LTR material. She was sexual, but not as sexual as she thought... And for the first time in a long time, I liked her in that high school/college way.

However, like many of the young, gorgeous women who inhabit this crazy town of ours, she wasn't ready to surrender her power and charms to one man. Or perhaps, to me. And, despite my tremendous enjoyment and experience of casual sex, I refuse to be part of a male harem, especially if my emotions are involved. I will not put myself in a potentially bad situation.

I was willing to end all my sexual extra-curriculars to see where this dating expedition would lead, and when it did not work as planned, I decided to act out.

I fucked a submissive, squirting milf on tuesday. This was one of the few women I have met who can cum from hot kissing, and my god, talk about squirting!

Before this I viewed squirters as one of those often talked about but rarely viewed in the wild phenomena. Much like the 12 inch dick.

This was before meeting 2 OF THEM IN THE SAME FUCKING WEEK!

Well, I had to revise that opinion after she left my sheets soaked all the way through. God bless her and her hoover of a mouth. She was also a true cum-swallower; something which the gorgeous blonde was not.

I also met a 2nd squirter this weekend.... at an interracial house party in the suburbs of a major city in the northeast.

I hadn't been to a sex party in a long time... and I have to admit, I was a little nervous.

I had fortuitiously receieved the invite from Ms. Alex as my infatuation/dalliance with the gorgeous blonde was winding down. Knowing that my advances of fidelity were being rejected pushed me back to the dark side.

I was horny and had been holding back to be the good guy.

I was done dealing with a girl who thought that doggy style was the most dominant, animalistic sexual position ever and who could not take my above average sized cock that way for long.

Fuck all that. I needed to fuck a woman who wanted to "fuck" back (as opposed to having sex or God forbid, making love) in a bad way.

It was a small party held in a 5 bedroom party house. Non alcoholic refreshments were provided, as were party snacks. There were about 4 couples - one of whom did not play, 3 single ladies and the party host - Michael. There were also about 5 - 6 single guys.

From the get go, there was a great vibe. People were chatting and joking. Ms Alex's and other porn videos were playing on the TV in the meet and greet room. The hotwives were scantily clad, including one wife in a particularly memorable fishnet ( I will now start calling fishnet "standard swinger gear") get up with black panties and fierce, black leather fuck me boots. I got to know her a bit better as the evening went on.

I had a blast at the party....

Ms. Alex and I kicked things off by getting reacquainted upstairs in one of the private party rooms. Ms. Alex gives, as she should, a porn worthy blowjob and she fucks like a bronco. Always a great time with her.

I then fucked another hotwife, while her hubby fucked Ms. Alex on the same bed. It turned out (as her hubby would explain), later on that this hotwife had an age cutoff, which I was definitely below. Oh well, she didn't complain too much when I was on top of her stroking it like it was my job. She did not give me a second ride however, and I understood where she was coming from.

I then got to make a light skinned black hotwife cum in one of the private rooms. It was her first party and I just wanted to make sure she had a great time, which judging by the way her thighs gripped my head, she did. She gave me a passable blow job but I wanted to fuck... and it did not seem like she was ready for that level of play. So we just sat and chatted.

I then got back to my friend in the fishnet; who turned out to be a squirter. She was just great all around; she really got into the sex, gave me compliments on my cock (beautiful!) and my stroke (you have a deep one!) and rode me like a cowboy. I fucked her twice to start and both times, her voyeur/exhibitionist hubby missed it. He'd come in when we were done and go: "oh man!"

We finally obliged him with a MFM threesome (my 1st of the night), with his wife in the traditional spit roast position - sucking hubby while I hit it from behind.

I think she enjoyed it.

My last encounter of the evening was with an elusive Italian/Sicilian single MILF. She had been involved in some threesome fun earlier in the evening. It was late, around 1.30AM and most of the other guests were sleeping or leaving. What started as simple conversation in one of the open rooms, progressed to me exploring her body under her very skimpy pink negligee and would end with me and another guy tag teaming her for several hours till the light of dawn started to peek through the blinds.

She was another great animalistic fuck, who proceeded to show us pictures of her other bisexual, IR loving girlfriends - including a picture of one of her (attached) girl friend's blowing a black guy in her cubicle!

WTF ?

And I thought I had sexual adventures....

I have to give the party an "A".

It was what I needed, when I needed it, without any bullshit. I made sure to make some new swinger/IR connections and I think I will try to head back to a few parties this summer. I will never be hardcore about swinging (IR sex is another story) but this was a great escape from the city, a salve if you will, for my bruised ego and of course, as always, a memorable adventure.


Addendum:

One of the interesting things I notice on these trips is that despite all the talk of the rust belt, is that small town USA is alive and well. I generally make my way back to my lair in NYC at the crack of dawn after an adventure and I get to see these towns as they wake up.

I check out the local diners before heading over to the local train station or bus station, look at the town papers and sometimes see the high school track team on their way out to a meet or to practice.

People still live, love and fuck in these towns. God bless 'em.

I, for one could never live in a small town ( I have a hard time imagining life away from NYC), but I definitely see the appeal....

My 2nd Time with a Porn Star.

Another adventure from our resident story teller...

So after meeting Ms. Alex at the orgy (please see the best orgy I have ever attended below) ... I was very interested in getting a repeat performance.

Luckily, she felt the same. And so, after a few phone calls and emails, we were able to set up a weekend meeting in the small town she lived in.

This town was a 4 hr bus ride from NYC, I anticipated getting on the bus at 6pm at the Port Authority, getting there at 10pm and having an all night fuck fest.

I snuck on two tall boys onto the bus. I also had my new ipod with me and some reading material and I was set for the journey. I was pretty excited; I remembered that Ms Alex had a high sexual skill level (she did sex for a living...) and she had the milf type body I had come to appreciate during my sexual travels.

4 hrs later. I arrive. I had actually called her as we pulled in.

She picked me up in her Cadillac Escalade; obviously the adult business paid well.

We chatted amiably on the 25 minute drive to her place, which was outside the small town. She basically lived in the woods, and as she explained to me, the remote location allowed her to throw a lot of parties and orgies and host a lot of shoots in and around her house.

We got to her place, a quaint but pretty house with decent acreage and a sizable back yard. Unfortunately I did not get the tour as we had other things in mind.

I had been pawing at Alex during the ride over; however once we got to the master bedroom - which was basically her personalized boudoir, I jumped all over her.

As I reminisce about this particular encounter, one of the thing that strikes me most was my lack of fear. Ms. Alex was a real life succubus - a woman of insatiable and kinky tastes, a vocal enthusiasm and a body built for sex. I should have been scared out of my mind, afraid that this crazy lady might tie me up, assault me somehow and leave me for dead out in the middle of nowhere, middle america.

Instead I was HORNY as all hell and ready to go, fuck safety and fear, I was about to fuck a pornstar for the second time; nothing could have stopped me.

They say straight men will wade through a mile of spit to get sex that they believe is worth it. Unfortunately, this is true.

Most straight guys work for sex; even bad sex offered by jezebels who supposedly know what they're doing, so hell yes, I will take a trip for FIRECRACKING, ORGIASTIC, ORGASMIC GOODNESS. Not all women know what they're doing, and unfortunately, some just don't make the effort.

Oh, and how firecracking an effort it was. Ms. Alex put on a clinic in male foreplay; teasing, biting, an impeccable and enthusiastic blowjob, rimming, ball juggling - you name it, she did it, with vigor.

We jumped right into a variety of positions. This was a woman who truly enjoyed sex and it showed. Oral, vaginal, anal... it was all on the table.

After a few hours we took a break and the evening then took a quick turn into the sublime.

"Would you like to see some of my work"
"Of course"

We then proceeded to watch one of her oeuvres, an interracial themed porn classic involving attorney-client sex, several threesomes and a complicated gangbang sequence as the finale.

I must say my favorite part of the movie watching experience was when I was getting head from Ms. Alex at the same time as her character on screen was servicing another costar. That was a truly interactive porn viewing experience.

We slept for a few hours, woke up and kept at it. I will never forgetting riding her from behind as the sun crept up, the gentle sounds of the woods contrasting with the louder sounds emanating from the master bedroom.

After a few more hours of morning sex, it was soon time for me to catch my bus back to Manhattan. Ms. Alex was great; telling me to drink some water otherwise I'd be dehydrated, driving me back to the station and buying me breakfast.

This allows me to segue into a trait I have noticed after years of sleeping with older women. They (older women - generally late 30s and up) have a certain gentility in their actions that younger women, enamored of their beauty and social status (and also insecure about the overabundance or lack thereof) seem to be missing. It makes for less awkward post coital interactions, and they just seem much more pleasant.

Now I understand I am generalizing here, and I know my view is skewed by the urban battleground that is New York City but I have to say, I have fucked a lot of older women casually, and they are in some ways much easier to talk to and deal with, vis a vis women in their 20s.

Anyway, back to our story....

At the bus depot, Ms. Alex and I got a few stares as we hugged shamelessly before I jumped on the bus. I don't know what most of those small-towners were thinking...but I'm sure we gave them some food for thought!

*****

Unfortunately Ms. Alex and I have not been able to connect since this last adventure. She has since moved to a large metro area but my travels in the last few years have not taken me near her. We have also had some near misses but I will never forget my tumble in the woods with this sexy and sexual lady.

My latest adventure....

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The best orgy I have ever attended.

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