In Defense of Tiger Woods.

So Tiger apologized last Friday. He looked contrite, apologetic and he knew that he had done wrong to his wife, and yes, he knew that he had definitely jeopardized his relationships with his sponsors (who had made him one of the richest men alive) and he had to make amends to them too.

So he did, with the same clarity, self discipline and focus that he has shown throughout his athletic career.

But to the rest of us; he doesn't owe us a damn thing. Professional Athletes aren't role models... they are entertainers and anyone who thinks otherwise must also believe that both the tooth fairy and Santa Claus visit on a regular basis.

I will not lie; as a former black nerd, I admire tiger, despite this brouhaha about his extramarital sex exploits I still do. I admire his mental and physical discipline, his ability to shape his body into something more and his ability to transform that mental discipline into success in his chosen profession.

And as a black man who dates/mates interracially I appreciated his game - his ability to bag the hot swedish former model. He did it fucking right. No baby mama bullshit. No settling here for some discounted version of what his ability and net worth should get him, no domestic violence. Hell, even the mistresses were a hodge podge of great looking talent. There are many guys who would give their right arms to "date" any of the women tiger enjoyed on a regular, non-committal basis. And of course this pissed off some "sisters": who of course always speak for the community: including the many black men that they have alienated over the years.)

(http://tinyurl.com/tiger-hedonist)

So where does Tiger go from here ?

It looks like; for now anyway, that Tiger wants to keep his family together. That is his focus. He will be back to golf but let's be clear - the family man image is gone. He can recover, much like Kobe did from the rape accusations but there will be the mountains of press and tabloid reports in his past.

I personally think that's a good thing. He always had more of an edge than he let on. And now the world knows.... he can go out there and dominate, may be swear a little more freely and have a bit more of an edge to him. We all know he likes to dominate on the course and in the bedroom - if you don't like that - fine, but what the fuck have you - all of you who judge him - achieved in your pitiful, peon-like little lives.

Tiger is a self made alpha male and a winner. He'll be back to his winning ways in short order, in the meantime he has been more successful, with women, his chosen profession and life than any of the so called moralists who are appalled by his behavior. I don't know about anyone else... but in my view - winning is what counts. Everything else is just talk... and cheap talk at that.

Random Vegas Thoughts

• This town has a lot of talent, both good and bad. I am always surprised by how much swinging, debauchery and bad behavior happens out here. Definitely my kind of town for a few days but beyond the strip - there isn't much to it. I could never live here.
  
• Extremely attractive women are still my kryptonite. I measure "hawtness" on an exponential scale... any thing up to a high 7/low 8 I can deal with and crush, extremely hot women take me out of my game a little bit... not good, especially since 2010 is all about improving the overall quality of my conquests...
  
• Leaving NYC, I am always reminded of how fat middle america is... goddamn, there really is an obesity epidemic out there. You'd never know living in Manhattan... but wow, there is a real health problem out there.
  
• The recession is not over. Occupancy at the hip and well known hotel we are staying at feels like 60 may be 70% - not good given the all the new construction that is coming online in this town... Vegas will bounce back, it always does...
• We hung out with some coeds from the LA area on Saturday night - we had a table at one of the newest clubs in town; while they were great to look at, photograph and dance with, talking with them was like pulling teeth. Apart from wanting a blowjob or doggystyle, not sure I have anything in common with a 21 year old... no matter how blonde or attractive her ass is... my problem is that I am bad at faking my disinterest.
• Douches with Hot Chicks. Enough Said.
• Married women fucking around. Enough Said.
  
• Oh well, last night here. Gonna get a good meal, some stogies, catch up with friends and see where the chips fall. I am turning down sex with my vegas swinger friends to hang out with my plain vanilla peeps.... just trying to be a good friend that's all.
  

Dispatches from Sin City...

Ah, lovely Sin City - one of my favorite places in America to vacation and party... whether plain vanilla or swinging style; I always have fun here.

I am here with vanilla friends who wanted to get away from NYC... so for the most part I will be doing the usual trifecta of eating, clubbing and socializing; but as you all know, I had to also get in my share of hot interracial sex on this trip.

And did I ever...

I fucked my 2nd porn star (ever) on this trip - the first of 4 IR encounters at the Rooster last night... I am not going to lie; it was the first nut and I got it out a little faster than I would have liked (her wet, tight pussy did not help; thankfully I put in much longer, more orgasmic performances with the other three ladies I got to play with)

There was also a nice milfy blonde from the bay area there with her very cool boyfriend who rode and let herself be ridden by the hedonist; she was awesome to talk to... and her japanese was impeccable!

My usual play partner and her girlfriend (who had given me my first MFF threesome last summer) were on hand and of course, the sex was great with them.

And yes, I ate a lot of pussy; but you know what they say; practice makes perfect.

It was a great night, the rooster is a very kitschy swing club that can sometimes feel like it is stuck in the 70s, but once you look past that (and with the right company), you can have a LOT of great sex with the right people there. I am fortunate that whenever I visit, my swinging friends introduce me to everyone and as such, I get introductions, referrals and a lot of orgasms as a result.

And this was just the first night....

Day 2 is going to be plain vanilla for the most part; but I have been emailing back and forth with another hot wife couple who enjoys BBC... who knows, maybe I get lucky on this trip and get to enjoy my own version of a "vegas double" before heading back to the coldness of the east coast.

Meet and Greet/Meet and Fuck...

So I had a meet and greet (with a hotwife couple off of AFF) earlier this week. Unfortunately it did not work out like I had planned but I ended up thinking about my experiences with meet and greets... and with meet and fucks...

First, let me explain my terminology:

A meet and greet - in my experience is as the name implies, a chance for a couple to check out another couple or single person, much like a first date, it is a way to see if there are any compatibility issues and can sometimes be over a period as short as 15 minutes to as long as several "dates".

A meet and fuck - which is where I have had the majority of my experience is when a couple or a single lady meet with the intention of sex at the meet. The difference is really one of style because for a meet and fuck, phone calls, text messaging and email takes the place of the date as a way to ascertain (and build) chemistry.

The couple in question for my meet and greet was definitely in the latter school. They did not consider themselves swingers and they liked to "let things evolve".

God bless them. However, my personality - as type A as it is, does not bond well with such couples... and I think that it probably shows. The couples and swingers - like Ms. Alex that I have had great relationships and phenomenal encounters with know exactly what we're there for.

For me Swinging and NSA encounters really are all about the great sex... not the pursuit, not the build up but the sweaty, raunchy action itself.

Fortunately the world is a large place and there are plenty of guys willing to hang around the hoop and play out the "seduction" scenario... and if that is your fantasy, I am definitely not knocking it. However, I have the most success coming in as the stud - I am there to sexually satisfy, add a level of spice and physicality that you might not get, I am present for the great sex... and while I enjoy the chit-chat and get to know you stuff... unless you are one of my old swinging friends... it is all about what we do - on the bed, on the floor, in the shower... etc.

Needless to say, my style and theirs did not gel and after a perfectly polite drink, I excused myself and headed out.

Rejection always stings, whatever the reason but we learn to know ourselves better; because it is a reminder that one cannot be all things to all people - no matter how hard you try.

Another MFM

Another Black (multiorgasmic) cockslut off of Craig's List from a few weeks ago. She stopped by after dinner tonight with her man, it was a quick MFM which ended with me shooting over her face and down her throat. Not my best work in terms of endurance but I was due for some strange.
She appeared to like it too and we all left on good terms.

It was also the first threesome I have ever hosted at my apt... it was satisfactory to say the least.
Not a bad way to start the holiday season....

Best Laid Plans...

So I was supposed to be at a massive orgy tonight. 21 couples and single women RSVPed... with about 30 single men joining... it was going to be an epic fuckfest.

Of course, with my luck, the traffic cascading all over the east coast and the snow advisories, I never made it out of Manhattan.

Oh well, it gives me a chance to think about the past year: it has been a good one in many ways... a tremendous amount of sexual encounters, success in my professional life and a great family life as well.

Some things could be better - I still find it hard to relate to the games vanilla women play, and I am so type A that I alienate some people with my candor. Those are things I am working on, however I am still resistant to the bullshit dating game. I am still impatient with people who I think are wasting my time, I do not suffer fools gladly and I am still fiercely independent in how I handle my affairs - sexual and non-sexual.

I am also being won over by the caliber of some of the black women I am now meeting in my professional circles... I do believe IR sex will always do it for me; but I have also begun to meet attractive, personable black women in a way I did not before - and that is not a bad thing.

My couple play has slowed as of late - I have done a lot more parties and one on ones but I think that is something I am going to kick back up in the new year...

I also do think I need to put myself out there more... I have focused a lot of my energy on the sex part of the equation and I am not getting any younger - I am firmly in my late 20s now; and while i think a long term commitment is still far off, it might make sense to get back on that dating bike - in controlled doses of course.

Regardless, 2009 will go down as a great year for the 646hedonist and I am grateful for the fun, the partners, the sex, the opportunities, my friends and family. I am also grateful to everyone who reads and supports this blog.

I will continue to look for more ways to broaden the readership in the next year.

Happy Holidays!

Thoughts on Contentment

The scene is a hotel room in a gambling town.... the other bed clearly has signs of sex every where - clothes on the floor; we have just ordered room service after a great round of sex... as we eat, my friend feeds me some of her food - which we ordered from the tavern attached to the hotel.

The meal is great, every morsel melting in my mouth, much like her breasts and her pussy had minutes before.... This my friends is what the good life is - room service, amazing sex, great company and the knowledge that this was an escape from the norm, a much needed stress relief for the both of us as the weather gets colder on the east coast - and before my friend escapes to the warmer climes from whence she came.

It was one on one; in the best way.... and you all know how much I enjoy hotel sex... there's something about great service, the fact that you get to leave and the newness of your surroundings.

It was interesting that this was the backdrop for a meditation on contentment. My friend was mentioning to me how she knew a woman who lived in the same town where she had grown up.... in the same house where she and her husband had gotten married, with her family and friends in a 1 mile radius around her. She described this lady as "content" with this simple kind of life.

We too were content in those moments of great sex, great food and great company... and I guess that is what I seek, I guess that is what motivates me; in this hedonistic journey of mine.... that feeling of satisfaction and satiation - right now in an almost purely physical and environmental sense. I guess one day, when I evolve into a higher emotional being, that I might long for someone to love.... but right now, I guess loving the things that make me feel good will suffice for now.....