Not really happy with what I am eating

So, I am in the middle of a slight let-down, which was inevitable given my summer. I am slap bang in the middle of a career transition so the days are long and my nights are filled with networking events.

I can't complain... it is what I wanted to do, but my sex life is taking a hit. I have had some sexual encounters, but nothing with the right level of raunch, passion and skill I am looking for.

To top it off; my friend ms Y is becoming a little clingy... while denying me oral sex.

So I need a new adventure and soon.... any body out there looking for an athletic bbc to take a ride on..... I eat pussy too....

I might just wear a sign... saying Have Cock - will travel.

On not knowing where my next meal will come from.

So it has been a few days since the threesome. I am off my high and looking for my next encounter so to speak.... I have nothing going on in the plain vanilla world, a fact that my real life friends are starting to call me out on. I'd much rather get drunk at the bar/club than spit game. Not because I don't know how - but that I am less interested with the thrill of the hunt. I am all about bagging the game and enjoying a good meal so to speak.... The hunt is for game players, I am past that.

With all that said, I need my fix soon. I know of a sex party on Saturday - one that has treated me well in the past despite some minor annoyances. If nothing comes up (and I see nothing on the horizon right now, I might find myself, over the weekend, in the tri-state area getting my fix with at least one hot wife).

I know I should try to get back into the dating game, but really none of the women I see/meet really move me. And I am both lazy, disinclined and not convinced of any of the game's merits.

But still I need sex on a regular basis...

What a conundrum.

Leaving Las Vegas….

I am sitting here at McCarran International after what has been a great west coast trip: I visited Northern California, Southern California and Las Vegas. I got to see wine country, mountain country and some great cities while I was at it. And I got to reconnect with old friends, make some new ones and get some hot sex in between.

So why am I feeling less content and more dissatisfied. I really should be grateful and I know this. I just took the trip of a lifetime, I can afford to pay for it all and I am heading back to a great new career transition upon my return to NYC.

I guess the simple answer is that I am never satisfied. I always want to push myself harder, I always want to win and to be perfectly honest; I want to be King.

Being King means having a suitable queen… and there might lie the rub. Whenever I take my vacations I see guys who are nowhere near my income bracket or career status, needless to mention looks with dimes and trophy girlfriends. And while I have done well in my time, I really do not believe I have fully explored my fullest potential with the opposite sex.

Put simply; at this point in my life, I want a hot chick. Not sorta hot, not cute, not even moderately hot. I want a traffic stopper on my arm and on her back in my bed. I want the kind of chick who spends as much time as I do in the gym; keeping it tight and together.

Being a Black man who dates interracially; and who has dated mostly white women for the past few years… there are certain challenges… but I am not crying any tears for myself. My problem might be that I have become so focused on sex and sexual experiences, that I almost don’t know how to engage in a vanilla way anymore.

In addition, as I have become more successful, my patience with women and the games they play has grown less and less. Add that to my tendency to speak my mind, my large sexual appetite and you have a very high dating bar set for the 646Hedonist.

I have been single for about 5 years now. 5 years of crazy adventures and misadventures, a lot of fun, a little heartbreak and a lot of self knowledge. I don’t think that odyssey is about to end but it might be fun; even just for a little while, to share that with someone attractive, sexual, smart and respectful.

One of my good friends, a man I call the “natural” because of his uncanny ability to put women at ease - first in public, then in his bed ~ has advised me to get a “starter” girlfriend; to ease my transition out of the life of the hungry, sexually ravenous bachelor into a more acceptable dating mode.

I am not sure about that idea; but suggestions from you readers are greatly welcomed. Regardless of how things play out… I have been having the sexual time of my life and I would not give that back for anything in the world.

Trip Update: Sin City Edition

Hello dear readers. I am coming to you from the madness that is sin city. It is 9AM as I blog the events of my extended West Coast Vacation but it might as well be 6pm or 4am. Time really has no meaning on the Vegas Strip.

My trip so far has been a blast, I hit two of the three major cities in California, a beautiful California beach/mountain town and have been in Sin City for the past two nights. I have had some great dinners, partied with old friends and explored new places. I have also taken a LOT of photos.

I have also had the opportunity to indulge myself in my other hobby: sex.

Suprisingly enough, my first encounter in NorCal came about via a CL posting. Granted, it was in Mr. Newmark’s home city so one would hope that it worked out, but as I have mentioned before, CL has become spambot/Pic Collector/Flake Central. Hence I was very surprised to have been contacted by a nice hot wife couple who lived in one of the surrounding suburbs.

I had a great hotel while I was there (thanks Amex travel!) and as such was able to host in style. The day was a little touch and go however, with my new friend calling earlier in the day to cancel, then texting later at night to say she was feeling much better and wanted to go through with the meet.

Despite the complications, it was a hot play date. Her delightful breasts, oral skills and great attitude made for a very hot time.

However I must say, that the events of the past 24 hours do take the cake.

I had the good fortune to visit the red rooster while here in vegas: (www.vegasredrooster.com) with some friends who I have played with on the east coast but who happened to be based out of LV.

It was a surreal yet positive experience and definitely worth a visit. There is a large group area and several private play rooms, with a variety of couples and singles allowed in. The rooster itself is a bit of an homage to the golden age of swinging.... (With all the positive and negative connotations that might imply).

However I did not have the time to ponder those thoughts because I was engaged, first in sex with my swinging friend from back east, and then with her and her girlfriend in my first MFF threesome. I don't think I will ever forget the sight of fucking one woman while watching her face buried deep in another woman's pussy. It was pretty fucking hot and despite my best efforts, 10 - 15 minutes of that action was what it took. This was after a pretty long one on one session with my friend before the 3 some.

I just found out that the friend I was supposed to play with on Sunday evening just cancelled on me.... seeing as this was a CL hookup, i might have been talking to a spambot for all I know.

Oh well, the trip has been a blast so far. We'll see what we can do about these next two days.

Have fun and stay safe everyone.

25 Things about the 646hedonist....

So everyone on Facebook is doing these.... I figured I'd spice things up by doing one for this blog... with some truths, thoughts, goals... etc. Feedback is always appreciated.


1) I have always been a horny bastard and I honestly do not believe that will ever change. I'll be 90 and still scheming for sex in my nursing home.

2) I lost my virginity at 17 to a 20 year old who I would sneak into the house while my parents were at work. Unfortunately, she was not into giving head but the rest of that first experience was pretty damn good.

3) I have a tremendous amount of stamina, I can go for hours. Sometimes it's a blessing, other times a curse. I think it comes from all the years of high school masturbation but I can't really be sure.

4) As someone in the IR/BBC lifestyle, I get a little insecure about penis size. At 7.5 inches I am not the biggest boy in the class, but I do like to think I am always among the most competent.

5) It still stings when dealing with a size queen though - because there is absolutely nothing you can do about changing the size of your dick.

6) Whoever or whatever corporation that comes up with a safe, viable method for increasing penis size a la breast implants will have written themselves a check for generations. They will MINT money hand over fist.

7) I have always been attracted to women who looked different from me - as a young kid I had respective crushes on: south asian and white girls in kindergarten, the princess in the "never ending story" and winnie from "the wonder years".

8) When I need to get sex, sometimes looks as an absolute value have fallen by the wayside.

9) Sometimes I think women do not really understand how horny men get and how frustrating the market for straight men is... I think the fact that they are offered dick every waking minute and they fact that they do not deal with rejection in the same way means we are speaking two very different languages.

10) If the Sex is not great, there will be no relationship. Unfortunately though, the corollary is not true.

11) As a young man, I never understood why some men got into watching their wives or significant others with other men. As I get older, I understand it more and more.

12) I would be less insulted by a suggestion to open a relationship than I would by infidelity.

13) I will always respect a non-manipulative hotwife over a supposedly great but lying, cheating wife.

14) I would be open to allowing a pressure valve release via swinging or casual play if I was in a long term relationship and yes.... including a MFM or allowing her a pass to play with a certain person or people.

15) Right now I am not looking for love, but it would be nice to find one day.

16) I still have a massive wedge on my shoulder from high school and it informs why I have very little patience for some women and the games that they play.

17) If I like you, I want to fuck you. The reverse is not necessarily true.

18) I love to suck on breasts.... real/fake it does not matter. What matters is that the woman enjoys the sensation/feeling.

19) I am always nervous before a sexual encounter, because there is always the possibility it could go bad.

20) While I might be nervous about performance and how I measure up, I am never nervous or insecure about my body. I spend a lot of time working on it and it shows. I measure up to anyone on that count anyday of the week.

21) I am going to stop counting when I get to triple digits.

22) There is a difference between having sex, making love, and fucking.

23) With someone you care about, the line gets blurred because you can do all 3 in the same session.

24) Some of the best times I have had at Parties/orgies are the moments right before the sex, when you see people you're played with and talked to, you chat, you get to know new people and just relax.

25) A woman's orgasm is a very complex thing.... the only thing I can say for sure is that the look on her face at that moment is one that is never duplicated anywhere else. NOTHING else generates that look.... and the fact that I was able to, at that point in time, is a high that I never quite get tired of.

The Gradual Wind Down of the Summer of Sex...

So, my dear readers, my summer of sex is winding down..... The past few weeks since my last update have been a little crazy.... there was a weekend night with a young black cock slut in boston, several house parties in the east coast/tri state area and a massive orgy/gangbang in the midwest where I fucked every single hotwife in appearance.....

I still have one last big trip planned.... I will end up in Sin City at the end of the month and I am going to make sure that I do some swinging/partying in Vegas. I have been going to Vegas for years but I have never gotten to taste the city's IR scene. I hope to change that on this next trip.

However as much fun as this summer has been, we all know good things always come to an end. Career, Education and professional life will again take a much larger role in my life going forward and I will not have as much time to devote to my carnal pursuits. It has been a blast and I want to thank everyone who I have played with, chatted with and who has read my blog so far. I appreciate you taking the time and while my playing will be slowing down, it is by no means done.

As you know by now, I am all about the bottom line. So without further ado, I present to you, in true NY Mag fashion, the tally at this point in the 646hedonist's summer of sex.....

4 orgies, 1 massive midwest gangbang/orgy, multiple instances of sex with former pornstar, dozens of jokes being cracked about black nerds, hundreds of miles logged on the ground and in the air in pursuit of sex, dozens if not hundreds of cum shots, 25 pictures of oral sex being performed on me by said black cockslut, multiple referrals from hotwives and one referral by a boyfriend and at least 19 new sex partners in the past few weeks of this particular odyssey.


And hopefully there's a little bit more left in the tank.....

A very bizarre 36 hours....

So while some of my good friends are slowing down their recent cycles of hot sex, mine is actually picking up. Since my tropical vacation, I have had a few encounters here and there but nothing that really satiated my needs in the way I like till yesterday. However, the past 36 hours have been a roller coaster of madness ....


Wednesday started with me waking up really horny. I know, not much different from any other day. However, Wednesday afternoon, I had set up a meet with a cheating wife via Adult Friend Finder. I am of two minds when it comes to fucking (cheating) married women; I have done it - usually because I follow my dick wherever it leads, but it is never the ideal situation. A cheating encounter also does nothing to ease my perennial trust and intimacy issues.

To be fair, this wife was not the hottest wife I have fucked, but I really wanted a raunchy encounter and that was all she was looking for too, so I overlooked a few things I shouldn't have and I forgot to ask for a face pic. Bad move, but not the worst.

I was supposed to be hosting the encounter but during the day, she called with an update: she was house sitting in outer borough; would I mind a change of venue.

Now people who know me well, know that for whatever reason, the hedonist does not really leave the island; for the US open, for some really good food but I am not super knowledgeable about the outer boroughs. I am not being a hater, just stating some facts. This lack of knowledge though, would come back to bite me in the ass.

I jumped on the train following her directions. My anticipation was a little hard to hide, but I am thankful for Kenneth Cole jackets. I walked out of the train station and straight into the 'hood. That little fact really didn't help my comfort level but fuck it: I was committed and on my way to the address I was given.

I got there, she let me up and we jumped into it. She was enthusiastic and she hadn't misrepresented her looks but after an initial bout of enthusiasm on my part, I lost interest. We weren't gelling in the way I like and while I like to believe that I will go through with about anything for an orgasm, this clearly was not the case ....

I politely extricated myself from the situation, disappointing as it was for both of us and made my way back to the subway... I was pissed, being the stud validates me in a very real way... and yes, I know "these things happen" - that really did not make me feel any better at the time.

Regardless, I went through with the rest of my day, a little upset and determined to get n end of day drink at one of my favorite establishments. I finally rolled onto my barstool around 9pm and caught up with bartenders and some friends in the area. 1 drink turned into 4 and sure enough, I was slamming them back and shooting the shit with new and old friends alike.

"Are you out and about" - came the unexpected text from Ms. Y, an acquaintance of mine from my professional network. She is a petite blonde with a great ass and a penchant for high heels, but at this point in time was just a very cool, yet attractive person to hang out with. As some of you know, I am very careful about mixing work/networking with pleasure... so while she was great to look at and fun to drink with, I believed that would be the full extent of our interaction.

"Yes I am - actually headed downtown for a bit, do you want to grab a drink at XXXXX" - she agreed and I rolled into the bar 15 minutes later for what I thought would be a few quick drinks.

However, conversation flowed more than anything else and we began to share war stories and dating adventures and misadventures in NYC. It turned out that Ms. Y had more of an edge to her than I thought....

As we walked back to our respective residences, somehow I got invited to swing by her place "quickly". However, the moment I walked in and jumped her, it looked like it would be a good night. I was, however a little gun shy given what had happened earlier in the day and I did not want to be disappointed again.

However, when she disappeared for 5 minutes and reappeared with some very hot items of clothing and when it became very apparent that our chemistry was super compatible, we got into the swing of things and it turned into a very late night/early morning... I certainly did not see that coming, and I'll try to see her again.

We have a compatible fucking style and I would like to explore more. I also have to admit that the lingerie, heels, sex kitten look is probably more important to me than I realized.

Then to top it all off; if things had not been bizarre enough, Michael Jackson passed away yesterday.... definitely a crazy set of events... but one that eventually worked out for me.

addendum:

While best laid plans can definitely go to hell as I have seen before, I have some trips, parties and orgies on the horizon that should be fun and should hopefully give me some new posting fodder. I am looking forward to some hot sex in the next few weeks and I have worked to put all the pieces in place.... we'll see how it all pans out but there should be some orgasms provided by some hotwives in my future.